Just found out im Asexual
i was expressing my concerns to my therapist about not wanting to be a boy and not wanting to be a girl, he said like most aspies, im more than likely Asexual, and i agreed with him.
it also explains why im so reluctant about having sex and also dont really desire it either. (although i had a very high sex drive when i was 13, but it ended quickly)
so now i know
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Zombiebride,
Asexual is not wanting to have sex. Non-binary gender of many varieties is usually about not being a boy or a girl. If you don't have a gender at all that's usually agender or genderless, but there are other possibilities (bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc).
wozeree's incorrect, though. For some reason, a lot of people are perfectly accepting of cisgender, heterosexual teens being correct in their evaluations of who they are in terms of sex and gender, but any deviation from that tends to receive responses like "you might be a little young to know that for sure." This is generally false, even though it is often well meaning and well intentioned.
You know who you are and what you want. That might change in the future, it might not. Do what you think is best because you know you better than we do.
Asexual is not wanting to have sex. Non-binary gender of many varieties is usually about not being a boy or a girl. If you don't have a gender at all that's usually agender or genderless, but there are other possibilities (bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc).
wozeree's incorrect, though. For some reason, a lot of people are perfectly accepting of cisgender, heterosexual teens being correct in their evaluations of who they are in terms of sex and gender, but any deviation from that tends to receive responses like "you might be a little young to know that for sure." This is generally false, even though it is often well meaning and well intentioned.
You know who you are and what you want. That might change in the future, it might not. Do what you think is best because you know you better than we do.
My psychologist said a Asexual person may have a sexual relationship, but they can live in balance and have no desires to have sex.
i lost my desire for sex a few years ago, i think it was higher when i was younger because i was going through puberty, but now i really dont care for it, i dont care for genders at all either. Kissing isnt enjoyable or displeasurable for me, it can be uncomfterble if it goes on for too long because after that i loose interest.
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Asexual is not wanting to have sex. Non-binary gender of many varieties is usually about not being a boy or a girl. If you don't have a gender at all that's usually agender or genderless, but there are other possibilities (bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, etc).
wozeree's incorrect, though. For some reason, a lot of people are perfectly accepting of cisgender, heterosexual teens being correct in their evaluations of who they are in terms of sex and gender, but any deviation from that tends to receive responses like "you might be a little young to know that for sure." This is generally false, even though it is often well meaning and well intentioned.
You know who you are and what you want. That might change in the future, it might not. Do what you think is best because you know you better than we do.
Verdandi, I'm never wrong!
Yeah, I think we just hate to see young kids locking themselves into any boxes, but you might be correct that that's not the correct perspective here. What is cisgender?
I'm also asexual. I've never really had any desire for a sexual relationship with another person. I didn't know there was a term for it until a few years ago.
Seeing people chase other people around trying to have sex with them is one of those things that completely baffled me. When I hear someone talk about lying to someone and pretending to be interested in them just to have sex with them disgusts me. It seems really silly to me when I see people do stupid stuff to have sex.
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MOST!? You're dealing with a quack. That statement is simply not true. Look at all the whining about wanting girlfriends that goes on on the Love & Dating threads here on WP and tell me "MOST" Aspies are asexual. What a crock.
MOST!? You're dealing with a quack. That statement is simply not true. Look at all the whining about wanting girlfriends that goes on on the Love & Dating threads here on WP and tell me "MOST" Aspies are asexual. What a crock.
Heh. That's exactly what I thought when I read that. That is one hell of a stereotype, and it's not even true!
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It's interesting you should create this thread; I was considering making one just like it. I'm still trying to decide whether or not I'm asexual. I've never been in a relationship or even on a real date; the only time I ever came close to being on a date (it was research for a school project), it was awkward and uncomfortable. I didn't know what to talk about, and he held my hand but I just found it sweaty and gross, not to mention our height differences made me feel like I was holding my father's hand! I've never been kissed, and have no particular desire to be; I'm afraid of catching mono or something, plus from my experience with my parents when I was younger, kissing is just slimy and gross, I don't like thinking about other peoples' spit on my face! Whenever I think about what having sex would be like, my first thought is always, "How do I ask him if he's been tested for STDs?" usually followed by, "If he's on top, will he crush me?" (I'm very small so it would be easy to do.) I'm trying to decide if I'm "too young" to make such firm decisions about my sexuality; I don't want to box myself in, for instance, if I met a man I found attractive (there's no such thing as "hot" in my world), and thought I might want to be with him, I wouldn't want to shut the idea down with, "Oh, I'm asexual/aromantic." It's not really anything I've given much thought to before now, but the therapist doing my intake eval for my autism assessment asked me about my romantic life, and that was what I came up with. Now I can't stop thinking about it. Damn you obsessive thought patterns!
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My psychologist said a Asexual person may have a sexual relationship, but they can live in balance and have no desires to have sex.
i lost my desire for sex a few years ago, i think it was higher when i was younger because i was going through puberty, but now i really dont care for it, i dont care for genders at all either. Kissing isnt enjoyable or displeasurable for me, it can be uncomfterble if it goes on for too long because after that i loose interest.
Yeah, I've been in sexual relationships and I am asexual. It's not unusual at all.
Yeah, I think we just hate to see young kids locking themselves into any boxes, but you might be correct that that's not the correct perspective here. What is cisgender?
Cisgender means not transgender. Your sex assigned at birth matches your gender.
The thing about locking into boxes is that children are expected to be locked into specific boxes because those are seen as "normal", and others are seen as "other" or "different."
Also yeah, I don't think most Aspies are asexual. I know quite a few Aspies who are of every sexual orientation.
That's agender, not asexual. Asexual is the lack of desire for sex. It sounds like you're both agender and asexual, judging from the rest of your post. But they are distinct things - I feel like a girl (I'm cisgender) but I don't want to have sex (asexual). There are also agender people who are not asexual.
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Why don't you go to asexual and agender forums and see if you can relate to what to what they are discussing the in a similar manner to the way you relate to what we discuss?. But don't forget about us.
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