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11 Jun 2014, 4:12 am

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Regarding the catch-22 of the title ... why do you even need to tell them you haven't had experience? You are not obliged to tell them. Dating is like a sales pitch - you play up your strengths and gloss over your weaknesses. It's expected.


I agree 100%. You don't have to disclose this at all.


It's not like it's always a choice of not telling, a lot of women asked me about my previous experiences (and because of my age, they assume I have a lot), they care a lot about a man's relationship history and sometimes later on they go as far as asking of seeing the previous exes on fb out of curiosity, so lying won't do it, and dodging these questions might work only for few times.



the part about wanting to see exes on fb sounds creepy. I would seriously reconsider wanting to date them. otherwise yes I've met some who are very interested in past relationships then reject me stating that I don't have enough. I don't have any that became official gf/bf titles. I have a hard time lying and tend to be very open.


Why would you be upset about them not wanting to date you? They sound like hideous people.


they seemed nice and playful. I felt attracted to them on both personality and looks. Its easier to look back now and say they not nice people if they reject off past relationships or jobs, but at the time and still now the rejection hurts and has made me feel worthless at times.
same problem with finding work, no past experience is bad, I just didn't think it would be like that for relationships which are suppose to be done off of how the current two people bond and get along not how they did with past people. I have past experience with women but not official title and in person was only a week or two each.

sorry if you meant that for boo.


Once again my 6th sense gets the better of me. I keep forgetting most people can't sense this in others. I usually feel something "off" about the person if they are on a substantially different wave length to me.


that must be nice. I tend to think everyone is nice an honest like me though I'm getting better at thinking otherwise. I am also watchful of people in case the move to attack me. My main problem is i trust people too easily, I need to remember that most people aren't like me. but that all people are evil either. I don't know how to tell the two apart til they have shown their true face.


It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:17 am

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bus cost money and takes 4 times the time to go places. like it takes me 20 mins to walk to the nearest store, 3 to drive there or 25 by bus. to my work its 20 mins by car, 1-1 and 30 mins one way. its all the wasted time waiting to change buses or waiting at a stop that adds alot of time.

is bush walking what you all call hiking? been a while since I talked to my ex friend from NZ , forgot you all have cute words, honesty If i had lots of money i might consider going to NZ to try to find a gf, women there seem to be pretty cool. sadly NZ is very far away. we have hiking trails here but most the closer ones cost $5 a day and close at sundown. well I guess there's really just one close by. There's free paths by the river though, but I am fearful to go alone.
both the zoos are crazy expensive and are like 200 miles away. plus apparently the one up north lost alot of animals so is rather bare.
I have very little basically whatever I make during the seasonal work after paying for gas , so 40-80 dollars every 3 months.

won't argue about the friends thing, but they are harder to find then dates. there's all kinds of sites for dates, but friends is left up to randomly meeting in public which isn't my strong point or i wouldn't be looking for dates online lol friends has all the same concerns of that of dating minus the emotional and cuddling pay off. I mean are they anti gun, anti welfare, do they like the outdoors , videogames. I bond thru activities and find just chatting to be boring, vrs chatting while walking is fun. ADHD :( I can't meet any at work or vocrehab stuff, so I am at a lost of how to make some. I'm in groups about guns and prepping on fb but most those guys are anti welfare and bit too far right leaning. they wouldn't like me if they really knew me. like my neighbor wouldn't.

I haven't met anyone not into drinking. Its kinda annoying. I just don't get drinking, I liked the taste of whiskey mixed with rootbeer, but at $10 a bottle and I don't like to get drunk it seems a waste. whine is just over priced juice lol we seem to have these main ways of doing fun things here, clubs/concerts, strip clubs, bowling/minigolf, movie theaters, hikes.

this guy i knew from school and this other guy from highschool keep trying to drag me to strip clubs >.< as much as i want to socialize no thanks. drinking while having some strange lady dance around half nude with loud music sounds awful. They think me a freak for not going.

last i checked meetups it just had a group that goes to other nations to do walks. older rich people. I guess i can check again. I probably need to find some new hobbies, but as you can probably guess its hard to find new hobbies i like when I focus on the current ones too much. a lot seem to be crafting and arts, which i have no interest in except wood shop, would be cool if there was a post high school wood shop place like they have sewing centers where you go and use their tools to sew, why isn't there a place for wood crafting. though I suppose spending hours crafting wooden bowls wouldn't really be a social life either . but its calming and i have something to show afterwards and could maybe sell them.

I made a ceder chest and a oak end table in my room, my biggest accomplishments, how many people can say the furniture in their house they made. if i won the lottery i'd make bowls all day in my garage. bowls for everyone.


You didn't answer my question, how do you afford to stay alive if you have no money? You must have some form of income. Any surplus is used on priorities. Are you telling me you buy nothing ever except food and pay for rent etc?


all my SSI is used by my mom to pay bills and other stuff. I have never got any of it. I've saved up other money over time and bought stuff, most was money saved up while going to college. I was able to buy a ps4 this year with money I had saved to go see this woman i loved, well turned out she didn't really love me, so i bought that.

but aside from electronics that I either saved for or bought with money that I got from tax return yeah I just buy food with food stamps and pay the bills with SSI. I don't buy clothes either. precept I finally bought new underwear and socks last month. I have some left from my tax return once its gone there's no more til next year. and theres some no fun things I need to buy with it. oh and 100 left from the dating savings. I wish i had a monthly income like others. If i knew i would have money each month maybe I could go do more stuff, but as is i have to be careful what i spend cause it won't be replaced and once gone its gone. I fear that day when I have no option to leave my house.

Edit: most of my clothes were last bought in 2008 except some shirts from a year and half ago. and boots i bought when i was 25 to replace my aging pair.

oh and if i work 32 hours at the store i get 50 dollar gift card for the store only so i've bought a keyboard, mouse, waterbottle and birthday gifts for people that way.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:23 am

I don't really understand where you get money for a PS4 if it's all used up. Though it's not really any of my business. But priorities.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:25 am

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It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.


but are you usually right? i mean i've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone i've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.

well if people on another forum i am on are good representatives of humans as they say they are, then apparently most people are out for themselves and willing to hurt others to gain success. .the told me I'm either a liar or a freak for not being that way.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:33 am

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I don't really understand where you get money for a PS4 if it's all used up. Though it's not really any of my business. But priorities.


I had the money set aside to go visit her. that fell through so it was just sitting there. I thought it over what would be the best thing to do with it for months. I tend to use video games to distract me from depression as well as get joy and past time. so I bought it after 6 months of thinking , at the time I thought there would be more games coming out for it, looking back now I only have 2. still in the long run probably a better purchase then other things .

i could have bought clothes, but the ones i have now work, and i don't find enjoyment in clothes. so i only buy them when needed like socks.

as for getting it, you save little by little. I really really wanted to go see her, so i saved where ever I could. put off doing things so that I could see her.

it also helps that i don't like the money wasters my friends do, smokes, liquor, protein shakes. I don't have any vices to waste my money on, and cause I don't i also don't spend money hanging with them much as that's what they do. this year has been a expensive year for me and i look rich to some, but the past years and years to come won't be so rich like. taxes take 1/4 my income, ssi takes 1/2 of it pre taxes , so once a year I get 1/4 of the whole year's income back. if i had got it with my pay checks i would likely have gone done more stuff maybe.

deodorant and shampoo too, they buy the expensive AXE stuff, I buy the cheap stuff i pay half what they do and it lat longer.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:35 am

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It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.


but are you usually right? i mean i've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone i've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.


As far as I'm aware, yes. I trip up all the time ignoring my gut because sometimes I want it to be wrong, go against it, and then dealt with what I really knew all along.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:40 am

I know people that bought 2 ps4's 2 xbox ones, and tons of games.

I bought one game and they thought it wierd I wasn't buying tons , I limit myself to 2 a year, so i don't wast money on games that i play once.

I bought a replacement pc this year for my 2008 one, it was open box so only 260 compared to its 500 orignal price.

so over all , save, buy cheap, . I tend to sacrifice doing stuff now for stuff I want in the future. i also avoid fast food.

I have everything i want minus some games that may or may not come out this year. objects don't bring happiness like they did as a kid. this is likely my last console and pc i'll buy. well going use them for 6-8 years, but i'm not much into gaming as i was.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:48 am

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I don't really understand where you get money for a PS4 if it's all used up. Though it's not really any of my business. But priorities.


I had the money set aside to go visit her. that fell through so it was just sitting there. I thought it over what would be the best thing to do with it for months. I tend to use video games to distract me from depression as well as get joy and past time. so I bought it after 6 months of thinking , at the time I thought there would be more games coming out for it, looking back now I only have 2. still in the long run probably a better purchase then other things .

i could have bought clothes, but the ones i have now work, and i don't find enjoyment in clothes. so i only buy them when needed like socks.

as for getting it, you save little by little. I really really wanted to go see her, so i saved where ever I could. put off doing things so that I could see her.

it also helps that i don't like the money wasters my friends do, smokes, liquor, protein shakes. I don't have any vices to waste my money on, and cause I don't i also don't spend money hanging with them much as that's what they do. this year has been a expensive year for me and i look rich to some, but the past years and years to come won't be so rich like. taxes take 1/4 my income, ssi takes 1/2 of it pre taxes , so once a year I get 1/4 of the whole year's income back. if i had got it with my pay checks i would likely have gone done more stuff maybe.

deodorant and shampoo too, they buy the expensive AXE stuff, I buy the cheap stuff i pay half what they do and it lat longer.


That wasn't the point I was trying to make, but don't worry, it's none of my business, anyway.
What I meant was if you want something badly enough you can achieve it. If you want to socialize enough, you will put money aside for things like bus fares etc.

If you don't want it badly enough, ok then, but it's unlikely to help your relationship situation.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:51 am

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It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.


but are you usually right? i mean I've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone I've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.


As far as I'm aware, yes. I trip up all the time ignoring my gut because sometimes I want it to be wrong, go against it, and then dealt with what I really knew all along.


well better then getting hurt by them all. in my world everyone would be honest and kind. we don't live there though

some of my mistakes and my loss is from lending money to people who don't pay it back , family and my ex best friend( who hurt me emotionally for a year, he would complain i didn't go do things with him cause lack of money while he owes me money.) my brother eventually paid me back with a gun now worth more then i lent him, but its a money drainer not money i can use to do stuff. though a kinda fun ongoing Restoration project. recently lent my sister money to buy a 3ds.

reminds me I need to start saving now for Christmas gifts.

know what though I've met a bunch of mean rude people working as a cashier. definitely a mind opener. it is hard to tell by people in person til they talk if they are a far right leaning. some people look nice. I saw this pretty girl at the bus station at school and then she was talking about how people like us should have been killed pre or after birth since we are a useless drain on the system due not being normal. if i hadn't over heard that I'd thought she was a nice person.



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11 Jun 2014, 4:57 am

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I don't really understand where you get money for a PS4 if it's all used up. Though it's not really any of my business. But priorities.


I had the money set aside to go visit her. that fell through so it was just sitting there. I thought it over what would be the best thing to do with it for months. I tend to use video games to distract me from depression as well as get joy and past time. so I bought it after 6 months of thinking , at the time I thought there would be more games coming out for it, looking back now I only have 2. still in the long run probably a better purchase then other things .

i could have bought clothes, but the ones i have now work, and i don't find enjoyment in clothes. so i only buy them when needed like socks.

as for getting it, you save little by little. I really really wanted to go see her, so i saved where ever I could. put off doing things so that I could see her.

it also helps that i don't like the money wasters my friends do, smokes, liquor, protein shakes. I don't have any vices to waste my money on, and cause I don't i also don't spend money hanging with them much as that's what they do. this year has been a expensive year for me and i look rich to some, but the past years and years to come won't be so rich like. taxes take 1/4 my income, ssi takes 1/2 of it pre taxes , so once a year I get 1/4 of the whole year's income back. if i had got it with my pay checks i would likely have gone done more stuff maybe.

deodorant and shampoo too, they buy the expensive AXE stuff, I buy the cheap stuff i pay half what they do and it lat longer.


That wasn't the point I was trying to make, but don't worry, it's none of my business, anyway.
What I meant was if you want something badly enough you can achieve it. If you want to socialize enough, you will put money aside for things like bus fares etc.

If you don't want it badly enough, ok then, but it's unlikely to help your relationship situation.


i do but i look at everything for its cost/benifit . so stuff has to have a shown payoff to me for me to spend money one it. like if i went to a club i'd be unhappy, used tons of money and probably left as alone as i went.. i've passed up mass single meet ups for this reason. I wouldn't handle meeting 200 people at once well so going there spending $40 to have an anxiety attack isn't good benifit.

I get what you are saying which is why I haven't spent the rest of my tax money. its just finding something cost effective.

my friend suggesting going to a movie alone, but how would sitting in a dark room help me socialize .

this is the trouble i have finding new ways to socialize, since my old one airsoft is too pricy now.



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11 Jun 2014, 5:00 am

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It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.


but are you usually right? i mean I've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone I've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.


As far as I'm aware, yes. I trip up all the time ignoring my gut because sometimes I want it to be wrong, go against it, and then dealt with what I really knew all along.


well better then getting hurt by them all. in my world everyone would be honest and kind. we don't live there though

some of my mistakes and my loss is from lending money to people who don't pay it back , family and my ex best friend( who hurt me emotionally for a year, he would complain i didn't go do things with him cause lack of money while he owes me money.) my brother eventually paid me back with a gun now worth more then i lent him, but its a money drainer not money i can use to do stuff. though a kinda fun ongoing Restoration project. recently lent my sister money to buy a 3ds.

reminds me I need to start saving now for Christmas gifts.

know what though I've met a bunch of mean rude people working as a cashier. definitely a mind opener. it is hard to tell by people in person til they talk if they are a far right leaning. some people look nice. I saw this pretty girl at the bus station at school and then she was talking about how people like us should have been killed pre or after birth since we are a useless drain on the system due not being normal. if i hadn't over heard that I'd thought she was a nice person.


Yeah, it's a bit different. You can feel it. I can't tell you how it's felt, because it's not with any of the 5 senses we know of. Hence it's a 6th sense.

There are times I have been wrong, and quite wrong, I am sure. I can't think of any exact examples, but I think other emotional conflicts sometimes get in the way of this sense.

Often it can be clarified as "Seeing people for exactly what they are, no exceptions, no facades, no coatings, no layer of cream, nothing"

Oh well, I won't derail your thread any further.. as you were.



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11 Jun 2014, 5:03 am

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It's not nice, when someone is smiling and talking to you normally, and you feel something off about them, and watch other people interact with them naturally. Sometimes I will speak with someone once and instantly dislike or like them, regardless of what they've said or done.

It's probably a safe bet to assume most people are wankers. That's what I do, though it's far from healthy as well.


but are you usually right? i mean I've been hurt by people I thought and seemed to be really good people.
can't think of anyone I've felt like that. some people are very rude and mean upfront so i don't like them.


As far as I'm aware, yes. I trip up all the time ignoring my gut because sometimes I want it to be wrong, go against it, and then dealt with what I really knew all along.


well better then getting hurt by them all. in my world everyone would be honest and kind. we don't live there though

some of my mistakes and my loss is from lending money to people who don't pay it back , family and my ex best friend( who hurt me emotionally for a year, he would complain i didn't go do things with him cause lack of money while he owes me money.) my brother eventually paid me back with a gun now worth more then i lent him, but its a money drainer not money i can use to do stuff. though a kinda fun ongoing Restoration project. recently lent my sister money to buy a 3ds.

reminds me I need to start saving now for Christmas gifts.

know what though I've met a bunch of mean rude people working as a cashier. definitely a mind opener. it is hard to tell by people in person til they talk if they are a far right leaning. some people look nice. I saw this pretty girl at the bus station at school and then she was talking about how people like us should have been killed pre or after birth since we are a useless drain on the system due not being normal. if i hadn't over heard that I'd thought she was a nice person.


Yeah, it's a bit different. You can feel it. I can't tell you how it's felt, because it's not with any of the 5 senses we know of. Hence it's a 6th sense.

There are times I have been wrong, and quite wrong, I am sure. I can't think of any exact examples, but I think other emotional conflicts sometimes get in the way of this sense.

Often it can be clarified as "Seeing people for exactly what they are, no exceptions, no facades, no coatings, no layer of cream, nothing"

Oh well, I won't derail your thread any further.. as you were.


i don't find it derailing though we could talk in pm if you want.

I'ts actaully really really nice to have someone to talk to. I get lonely in here and my friends and i don't talk much anymore.