Being something you're not doesn't always work
That's the problem with those f***ing counselors. Their NT, we're aspies. They have no f***ing clue how are brains work and end up giving us just utterly useless advice.
I actually wonder if they even know how NTs work. I mean, that advice is kind of stupid even for an NT kid. Some shy boy isn't going to be able to successfully impersonate Hulk Hogan just by deciding to try to.
My therapist told me that its okay to accept what you cant do or cant be. I push myself so hard to feel like I fit in and it causes more stress that I do not really need and it causes meltdowns and issues with myself. Sometimes you just have to say, "It is okay that I am not like that" and just be yourself.
I think pretending to be some one your not as a way of life is deceptive and damaging to yourself and others. It serves a purpose in self preservation situations (eg interviews, work places) I find it difficult to differentiate between rational and irrational threats to my self image, as such my reactions socially can be needlessly defensive.
If the typical world does not like who you are, it could be a signpost for personal growth, or wider intolerance. Gandhi's advice on thoughts words actions etc has helped me gain perspective with regard to this.
I've only found myself to be happy when I don't try to act differently.
Whether it works well for me in the future I don't know, but I have actually found that things have gone better for me when I act like myself. I just need to be more assertive. Not much, just a bit more.
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Guess they figured I was so tall that I could successfully scare off bullies. Of course, the bullies could sense how phony I was and I didn't have a CLUE what I was doing since I am not violent or aggressive and made sure to make me pay since I was threatening the established order. If I kept my mouth shut I probably would have been just left alone.
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