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27 Mar 2014, 4:50 pm

I need to get people to understand this.


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27 Mar 2014, 4:53 pm

It does work, it just takes a while. They don't give up straight away, they give up when they realise they're not getting a reaction from you.


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27 Mar 2014, 4:54 pm

Wind wrote:
It does work, it just takes a while. They don't give up straight away, they give up when they realise they're not getting a reaction from you.



It didn't work for me .


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27 Mar 2014, 4:55 pm

Might want to edit the title to "does not always work" its worked for me before and sometimes it don't :?



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27 Mar 2014, 4:56 pm

cyber bullies are easier to ignore.


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27 Mar 2014, 4:57 pm

AdamAutistic wrote:
cyber bullies are easier to ignore.


Yeah I'm talking about real life


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27 Mar 2014, 4:59 pm

When even I didn't react it just got worse. I was seen as a pushover. Plus I'm vonrable.


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27 Mar 2014, 5:01 pm

Yeah, that's my experience too.

Never got anyone to really listen when it would have mattered, though.



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27 Mar 2014, 5:01 pm

jenisautistic wrote:
When even I didn't react it just got worse. I was seen as a pushover. Plus I'm vonrable.


When someone is bulling you try to get to a adult you trust asap!



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27 Mar 2014, 5:02 pm

Verdandi wrote:
Yeah, that's my experience too.

Never got anyone to really listen when it would have mattered, though.



It seems like no one understands.


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27 Mar 2014, 5:06 pm

I know how it feels to be a pushover as I use to be one. Can't recall how I got over it but I have



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27 Mar 2014, 5:16 pm

jenisautistic wrote:
Verdandi wrote:
Yeah, that's my experience too.

Never got anyone to really listen when it would have mattered, though.



It seems like no one understands.


Well, I do understand. While the rule to ignore a bully can sometimes apply, there are times when it absolutely does not.

In fact, bullying should never be ignored. You will need to be proactive to avert further bullying. In extreme situations, bullying can escalate out of control and cause very real damage. Please do not feel badly, jenisautistic - I promise, this is not your fault and you do not deserve to be bullied! Please tell someone now. If they do not listen, go to someone else. Approach a teacher, parent, trusted neighbour, or school counsellor.


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27 Mar 2014, 5:18 pm

The problem is the people who do this are people I dont know and can't even idenify , people I barely or never talk to.


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27 Mar 2014, 5:19 pm

jenisautistic wrote:
I need to get people to understand this.


It only works if the bully sees you truly don't care. If they see you do care but is trying hard to not show it, they pick up on it so that is why they keep on doing it.


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27 Mar 2014, 5:19 pm

Verdandi wrote:
Yeah, that's my experience too.

Never got anyone to really listen when it would have mattered, though.


Precisely. I've had been bullied to extreme levels and my attempts at reporting were futile at best. :cry: Now, I just advised to report the bullying to avert the situation. However, no promises the approach will work. We can only try though, yes?


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27 Mar 2014, 5:30 pm

Indeed.

In grade school I actually had teachers turn their back on me when I was being bullied, and then later would say "It's your word against theirs, I didn't see a thing."