Where are the introverts?

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Where are all of the introverts of the world hiding?

At my work, we have to give introductions pretty frequently in meetings and things. Nearly everyone in the room starts off with "Hi, I'm _____, and I'm an outgoing....". In online dating, nearly every person's profile says "I'm an outgoing.....looking for an outgoing guy". And don't even get me started on facebook! Even people who say they're introverted often seem completely opposite to their description. One person I work with who says he is an introvert is pretty much the loudest person and most social person in the office, and constantly surrounds himself with others.

It just seems like everywhere I look, I'm constantly surrounded by extroversion! I would really like to meet some more introverted people like myself, but I can't seem to find any!

Maybe some people really don't know what introverted means or were taught incorrectly. Introverts enjoy people but they often need to be alone in order to "recharge" in order to continue to be around other people due to an increasing anxiety and fear of being theoretically devoured. When they're alone, they reestablish their boundaries. They feel a relief to know where other people end and where they begin. That's why some celebs retire to secluded areas. They simply have had enough. They made their fortune and now they can be their introverted selves.
One way to tell if someone is an intro or extro is to ask, "So, what do you do when you're alone?"
If they say, "I relax, bath, cook, paint, read, amuse the cat, etc... or anything that doesn't require other people - then that's your introvert". If they "always" seek others when they are alone, then they are an extrovert. If the word "alone" doesn't scare them, then they are an introvert. Being alone, even once in a while, makes an extrovert uncomfortable. They will always seek others by taking their dog out to a dogpark, heading down to the sports bar/pub, anything that would require that another person talk to them. You won't see them browsing in book stores. You'll see them in pool halls. Most likely, they will always see someone they know and immediately start conversing. An introvert will go to a place where they don't know a soul because it really doesn't matter to them. The introvert is eager to sail the vast empty sea whereas the extrovert is eager to dock and have pina coladas with the party of 80.

I am an ambivert

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I am an introvert. I definitely need my alone time to recharge. no boundary issues, though. when I had a 24/7 people job, I was always extremely tired.

I think it's hard for us to recognize NT introverts. They get worn out from socializing, but compared to us they still have an extreme need for it.

introverted women don't want introverted men.

and most introverted men aren't that anyway.

like my step son whos 21 soon.

He owns the game of thrones boardgame and I think the LOTR ones.
He spends most his time watching the stargate series or playing xbox games.
His room is full of geeky stuff.

But he works in a nightclub, he has about a billion friends and I don't think the majority of them realise what his hobbies actually are because he's out drinking all the time and seemingly mr popular with the ladies.

when people say they want an introverted man that's probably the type of person they mean.

someone outgoing that's not entirely opposed to staying in

I get the feeling most people lie on dating websites to appear more outgoing and interesting than they really are.