failure to control facial expressions when the mind wanders

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Hi i'm 22 and have asperger's. Does anyone else lose control of their facial expressions when experiencing emotions that reflect their thoughts when their mind is wandering? I feel that this is my biggest weakness when it comes to putting on a facade for human interaction. Is the problem that i allow my mind to wander too much? Or is it that i need to work on control of my facial expressions in order to appear more 'in tune' with NTs? Or should i just learn to accept that this is the way i am and there's no point trying to hide it?

i hope people can relate.

Other than a constant look of preoccupation and stress, I don't think I generally have much of a facial expression.

Yep, but I try to watch it in public. I have a tendency to start talking to myself too, unawares.

yes, it is very important to cultivate a stone face.

Thanks a lot everyone. All of your replies have been really helpful.

Guilty The girlfriend can always tell when I'm bored because she reckons that my face muscles relax. Inside my mind is drifting and the topic can be anything from something technical to a nice bit of Vivaldi.

I do tend to scowl a lot when relaxed. My forehead develops a frown, and if I pay attention to it, I can feel I am frowning and I have to raise my eyebrows every so often to get rid of the frown. I think it's because I am depressed though, and usually on my own. When I'm with somebody I feel a lot happier.

I read in some places it is a trait of aspergers to not have facial expressions or have expressions that don't match the feeling. Well, for me it is exactly the opposite, My facial expression match my feelings, even when it is not appropriate to do so. For instance, an aunt comes to talk to me and says something I don't like, I make a grim face at her and she gets upset. I am not aware of doing this, my mother tells me so. When I am in a party and bored for instance I am not good at masking it. Worst situation is when I am playing cards and can't pretend I have awesome cards when I have lame ones I am AWFUL at bluffing.
I too talk to myself when my mind wanders, I may even make expressions or laugh. Well, I can't help you because I do the same.

Just pretend that you're someone else.

I have the problem exactly as described. I have aspie stare episodes every day and have the same issue with uncontrolled facial expressions. In worst case scenarios I start talking to myself although thankfully this is not that common. I have to be 110% engaged in what I do or else I am at risk of switching off. Its either 110% or -10% in my case. I am a successful person built on what I sometimes refer to as a 'go big or go home' philosophy for life. I have found it helpful to share my aspergers challenges with a few trusted people in the workplace. Those people can be very helpful in prodding me to snap out of it and to generally be empathetic.

Yes I have this problem

I have always had this sort of problem; when I am working hard concentrating or relaxed and thinking, I am utterly engrossed and my face just goes into random looks, often frowning. People often think I am angry when I am not.

One person described the faces of non-people-interacting autistic people as the equivalent of static on a TV screen.