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shortfatbalduglyman
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10 Aug 2017, 9:18 pm

yeah i know there is something wrong with everything.

quite frankly i suspect that i do better somewhere not too urban. not too crowded. too much noise/stimulation. too many things going on.

but i would not want to live in the woods. that would feel dangerous. what if someone raped me? where i live is actually ideal in that way. close enough to somewhere urban, so that i can walk there. bookstores, grocery stores, public transportation to jobs, schools, parks.



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10 Aug 2017, 9:20 pm

I have found that if there is any degree of public transit/public amenities/culture, it's gonna be crowded and expensive compared to where I live now.



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10 Aug 2017, 9:24 pm

auntblabby wrote:
I have found that if there is any degree of public transit/public amenities/culture, it's gonna be crowded and expensive compared to where I live now.

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sooner or later i might end up homeless.

sooner or later i might not have a car.

even if i do have a car i am bad at driving.

so it would not make sense to move somewhere without sufficient public transportation.



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10 Aug 2017, 9:27 pm

we each must make our own accommodations.



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10 Aug 2017, 9:34 pm

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we each must make our own accommodations.

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ok, but how do you get to work? telecommute?

where i live there are not a lot of jobs. but it is within public transportation distance of a lot of jobs.

first year of college, lived in a dorm. a lot of things were happening. right out the door and to the cafeteria. entire school within walking distance. library, grocery store, gym, track. class.

for that reason, among numerous other reasons, doubt it was worth it. lived in the apartments. it was like walk a couple yards and see someone you recognize.

after college, neighbors not too social. which is fine with me.

but what i could not imagine though is living somewhere without a sidewalk. living outside walking distance from the grocery store.



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10 Aug 2017, 9:57 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
we each must make our own accommodations.

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ok, but how do you get to work? telecommute? where i live there are not a lot of jobs. but it is within public transportation distance of a lot of jobs. first year of college, lived in a dorm. a lot of things were happening. right out the door and to the cafeteria. entire school within walking distance. library, grocery store, gym, track. class.
for that reason, among numerous other reasons, doubt it was worth it. lived in the apartments. it was like walk a couple yards and see someone you recognize. after college, neighbors not too social. which is fine with me. but what i could not imagine though is living somewhere without a sidewalk. living outside walking distance from the grocery store.

I scrimped and saved for decades, until I got laid off [expected it] from the uncivil service, and my choice was to try to find some mcjob someplace when my aging body could no longer tolerate it, or to live in genteel semi-voluntary poverty. I chose the latter and have not regretted it. been out of the rat race since 2006. no sidewalks out here. if a car comes along, get onto somebody's yard and get yelled at, if there are no woods to jump into. here, it is house, a hundred feet or more of woods, then another house. trees everywhere, surrounding everything. crude bumpy country roads. dust. mud.



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10 Aug 2017, 10:04 pm

auntblabby wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
we each must make our own accommodations.

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ok, but how do you get to work? telecommute? where i live there are not a lot of jobs. but it is within public transportation distance of a lot of jobs. first year of college, lived in a dorm. a lot of things were happening. right out the door and to the cafeteria. entire school within walking distance. library, grocery store, gym, track. class.
for that reason, among numerous other reasons, doubt it was worth it. lived in the apartments. it was like walk a couple yards and see someone you recognize. after college, neighbors not too social. which is fine with me. but what i could not imagine though is living somewhere without a sidewalk. living outside walking distance from the grocery store.

I scrimped and saved for decades, until I got laid off [expected it] from the uncivil service, and my choice was to try to find some mcjob someplace when my aging body could no longer tolerate it, or to live in genteel semi-voluntary poverty. I chose the latter and have not regretted it. been out of the rat race since 2006. no sidewalks out here. if a car comes along, get onto somebody's yard and get yelled at, if there are no woods to jump into. here, it is house, a hundred feet or more of woods, then another house. trees everywhere, surrounding everything. crude bumpy country roads. dust. mud.


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although living where you live might be better than living somewhere better and having to work a mcjob.

sooner or later, i have to panhandle. the state i live in is an "at will" employer. only had minimum wage jobs. and got fired.

where i live there are a lot of panhandlers.

or maybe professional research subject.

some nontraditional job.

mcjob

the older i get the more incompetent i get. seriously.

standing up 40 hours a week? loud noises? angry customers? claustrophobia?

pretty much rules out all the jobs that i qualify for.



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10 Aug 2017, 10:07 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
maybe professional research subject. some nontraditional job. mcjob. the older i get the more incompetent i get. seriously. standing up 40 hours a week? loud noises? angry customers? claustrophobia? pretty much rules out all the jobs that i qualify for.

if it weren't for some financial luck, i'd be living under a bridge some place. I wasn't really made for this world. wrong planet.



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12 Aug 2017, 9:38 pm

auntblabby wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
maybe professional research subject. some nontraditional job. mcjob. the older i get the more incompetent i get. seriously. standing up 40 hours a week? loud noises? angry customers? claustrophobia? pretty much rules out all the jobs that i qualify for.

if it weren't for some financial luck, i'd be living under a bridge some place. I wasn't really made for this world. wrong planet.



yeah i might end up homeless sooner or later.

panhandling, recycling, prostitution

ain't got no job or job skills.

but plenty of precious lil "people" that are just as incompetent as me have jobs. especially counselors. it's like all they have to do is sit there and flap their traps. there is no right or wrong answer. and if there were, it wouldn't matter, b/c it's not objectively recorded and subject to peer review. such as Pub Med database



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12 Aug 2017, 9:55 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
maybe professional research subject. some nontraditional job. mcjob. the older i get the more incompetent i get. seriously. standing up 40 hours a week? loud noises? angry customers? claustrophobia? pretty much rules out all the jobs that i qualify for.

if it weren't for some financial luck, i'd be living under a bridge some place. I wasn't really made for this world. wrong planet.

yeah i might end up homeless sooner or later. panhandling, recycling, prostitution ain't got no job or job skills. but plenty of precious lil "people" that are just as incompetent as me have jobs. especially counselors. it's like all they have to do is sit there and flap their traps. there is no right or wrong answer. and if there were, it wouldn't matter, b/c it's not objectively recorded and subject to peer review. such as Pub Med database

I definitely have skills but nobody wants to pay me for them. wrong planet, on a different planet people'd be linin' up to avail of my unique skills. the difference between folk like us, and the successful middle/upper class, is family background, luck, and above all, clear [non-addled] energy.



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12 Aug 2017, 10:08 pm

auntblabby wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
maybe professional research subject. some nontraditional job. mcjob. the older i get the more incompetent i get. seriously. standing up 40 hours a week? loud noises? angry customers? claustrophobia? pretty much rules out all the jobs that i qualify for.

if it weren't for some financial luck, i'd be living under a bridge some place. I wasn't really made for this world. wrong planet.

yeah i might end up homeless sooner or later. panhandling, recycling, prostitution ain't got no job or job skills. but plenty of precious lil "people" that are just as incompetent as me have jobs. especially counselors. it's like all they have to do is sit there and flap their traps. there is no right or wrong answer. and if there were, it wouldn't matter, b/c it's not objectively recorded and subject to peer review. such as Pub Med database

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I definitely have skills but nobody wants to pay me for them. wrong planet, on a different planet people'd be linin' up to avail of my unique skills. the difference between folk like us, and the successful middle/upper class, is family background, luck, and above all, clear [non-addled] energy.

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family background? my sister is a medical doctor.

my precious lil "parents' " friend is a janitor. the janitor's daughter is also a medical doctor.

hence, like typical chinese parents do, they used to ask why are you not like your sister.

now they no longer ask that question, b/c my precious lil "mom" dropped dead 2 years ago.

and i would not say that i had bad "luck" per se. unless you call autism, Gender Identity Disorder, or clinical depression "bad luck". which i would not. sure, it's beyond your control. but terminology.

energy though. seriously

used to go donate blood a lot. succeeded over 25 times. but many times, got deferred. rejected. anemic. the definition of anemia was under 12.5g/dl (and later that changed to 13.0).

and now i am much more sluggish than i used to be

and i used to be pretty sluggish

sometimes too exhausted/lazy to even talk.

nothing seems worth the energy.
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but whatever.

being exhausted could have advantages. like being too exhausted to do anything good or bad. simplicity.



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12 Aug 2017, 10:12 pm

^^^"being exhausted could have advantages. like being too exhausted to do anything good or bad. simplicity."
i'd buy THAT for a dollar. :wtg:



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12 Aug 2017, 10:32 pm

Services can be awfully hard to find out in the sticks.



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12 Aug 2017, 10:41 pm

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Services can be awfully hard to find out in the sticks.

you can say that again! :o one has to be a lot more independent out here. it can be a challenge.



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13 Aug 2017, 7:53 am

Aunt Blabby

What kind of services do they offer in the city that they don't have where you live?

Public transportation

Since my precious lil "parents" did not send me to get a diagnosis when I was under 18, the Regional Center told me that I don't qualify for professional services