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Jensen
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26 Jun 2014, 6:24 pm

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If there are many groups in your area, see that you find a group with an aspie leader. He/she will know what it is about. :)


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26 Jun 2014, 6:30 pm

I think there's only one but it's supposed to be very good. I'll report back.

Thanks again.



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26 Jun 2014, 6:37 pm

LongStoneMan - one of the bits which I forgot to repeat in my second attempt at posting a reply to you was that feeling a need to withdraw is typical of this thing we call ASD. The anxiety and depression issue may be completely separate, but maybe it isn't. I have never really understood 'anxiety', but depression has been with me throughout my life. In retrospect, I believe that my depression was caused mainly by my lack of self-understanding.

I'm not sure what CPN stands for, but the fact that he or she has no knowledge of ASD doesn't surprise me at all. In the UK, ASD is still mostly regarded as a childhood condition which is dealt with by the education authorities (as you well know...). That's why I expressed surprise that, in your case, the suggestion came from an NHS psychologist.

I seriously don't believe that there is a credible definition of Autism - the 'symptoms' are simply too varied, both in type and in degree, for any meaningful label.

But lots of us have lots of shared (neuro-diverse?) experiences, and hopefully one day all will be explained. I wish you all the best in the world, and please feel free to continue the discussion.



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26 Jun 2014, 6:46 pm

Just that is REALLY useful to know thank you. I'm so new to this I'm trying to separate the 'condition' from my personality if that makes sense, so that I can see which bits of me are down to the Aspergers and which are just me. That need to withdraw has been playing on my mind recently, so it's good to know it's pretty usual.

Thanks.

CPN --> Community Psychiatric Nurse which is what it says. He comes and visits me in my own home every 6 weeks or so, but my diagnosis has almost thrown everything else out of the window at present. You're spot on about the definition as well, as I'm sure you know. That's why my psychologist would not diagnose me, I had to go to a specialist one who ONLY does ASD, so the diagnosis is as accurate as it can be. I was lucky to be spotted to be honest, as I could easily have gone on as I was, really floundering. I'm hoping I can work to piece together a better life for myself and my family now.



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27 Jun 2014, 12:34 pm

Hello. This probably won't help, as I'm not even diagnosed, I simply suspect it. I'm actually going for a psychological examination tomorrow to determine if I have it as well as some other things. My brother has aspergers and is autistic like, so I'm sort of disappointed my mother didn't realize it in me, even though it's not to the same extent as him. In her defense she's never raised a 'normal' child, so she didn't realize that I was a bit different. Your teachers probably just thought you were shy or introverted. Every class has shy people, but not all of them are autistic. They really should have tried to help you though, I know how hard it is. I'm not diagnosed yet, but I'm sure everyone be would be happy to talk to you. I believe this site has chat boards too, and you can probably ask around to find people in your area. Your diagnosis doesn't have to change you, remember you've always been this way. It's simply an explanation as to why you are .



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27 Jun 2014, 2:40 pm

nyxjord wrote:
Mental, what specific issues do you have? I'm also female so I was just wondering. And I was like 97.3 percent sure when I self diagnosed but got a formal one because I don't know any one is AS irl, so I had no one to compare myself to. When I got the actual diagnosis I was shocked because I didn't fit into any stereotypes and ideals that the mass media thinks about us. But I have come to realize that I am me, I have always been me and that no matter whether or not I got diagnosed, I still had AS... if that makes sense. It's just nice to have a name for it. IDK, my entire life I have been... rejected and shunned so at this point (25 y/o), I am comfortable with being a loner, and who I am.



I have sensory issues (complete burn-out due to sensory issues early this year. .); apart from complete lack of a decent coping strategy (I hide, hide, hide.... and avoid, avoid... )

My part on the social stage raises many an eyebrow: I don't do chit-chat, apple-pies, cupcakes. birthdays, gossip, fashion, make-up, etc... and don't understand a bit about what life is about in general. I just rather keep to myself, I find myself not fitting into any category, and feel I am being judged (and rejected) harsher that my male counterparts...