Should I tell my ex I'm leaving?

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My bf and I broke up a little over a month ago. He was my first boyfriend and we went out for about 5 months. I wanted to stay friends with him because things actually ended well, but he was basically like, Let's not talk at all for the rest of summer. So, he wasn't that interested obviously. We would have been in clubs together and live near each other at school, so we were going to see each other a lot, but I decided to transfer. I also happened to get a new phone so he doesn't have my old number, if he were to hear I'm leaving and want to ask about it (but I really doubt he would try and get in contact with me for anything...but who knows). He also doesn't have a facebook. I'm over him and I know he's far from giving a darn about me at this point, but it does feel kind of douchey to not tell him I'm leaving. I'm just worried he'll be indifferent about it. I mean, I still consider him one of the best friends I've had.

You're not obligated to but it wouldn't hurt to let him know you're leaving town. At worst he can simple say 'so?' and thats that. But you'll know you at least told him.

Unless you have concerns about domestic abuse, I would tell him it is over then go on your way.

If he has (or you think he will) beat you then move off first and then tell him it is all over.

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You don't owe him anything.

He told you to stay away, which usually means "I don't want to be friends".

The best thing you could do imo is don't bother telling him anything. If he is genuine he will come back as a friend. If he isn't, he won't, and TBH you don't need people like that around anyway.

The middle finger would do.

haha thanks for the advice. i guess i wanted so badly to not be the "ugh my ex is such an as*hole" person but honestly, that was pretty assey on his part so I shouldn't really care

Unless you had a child with him, the answer is no.

I agree with the folks who are saying just leave, and don't contact him. You are over him, now put him behind you forever and move on with your life. May sound cold, but it isn't. It's pretty normal. If this was the 70s, there wouldn't be Facebook and cell phones, etc. anyway. Just because we have so many modes of communication, it doesn't mean you have to actually *communicate*.