auntblabby wrote:
IMHO your family is systematically invalidating your individuality and personhood, and it would be a good idea for you to get away from them as soon as possible. just my opinion.
I agree. This happened to me, and it damaged me very badly. Anger is an emotion, and emotions need to be validated (but not used to justify bad things). Teaching you to talk about your anger, be assertive, and talk it out with the person you are angry at is what should be happening IMO.
I also withdrew into my room. I did it for years until I left when I was 18. Honestly, it might not be such a bad idea. If people question why you are anti-social, you can simply say "You yell at me all of the time, so why should I subject myself to that kind of behavior? I get mad too, you know, but you don't care". It's possible maybe they just don't "get" it, and I'm hoping that helps them empathize. If not, continue to stay in your room. Avoidance, if possible, is best when you can't leave a crappy situation.