Harsh or not?

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There was this guy once at my college who had quite a bad case of aspergers. He would behave in bizarre ways etc..

In one our classes he was trying to talk to one of the girls and one of her male friends (not her boyfriend) said to him "why are you talking to her" in annoyed tone of voice.

Do you think he was a bit harsh saying that to him?

Harsh yes but typical of what happens to some aspies.

Why typical?

That's the way young people are.

If they're not dating, then he's a d-bag. If they were dating and the other guy wasn't trying to flirt, then he's a d-bag.

How was that harsh? It was just a question.

My guess? You were being annoying and/or creepy and had no idea you were doing it; the girl was uncomfortable but too nice/polite to say anything; and the tension of the situation made the other kid irritable.

Or he was just a douche.

Sounds like the Aspie was talking to a "popular" girl, and the douchebag "popular" guy didn't like it. Too high school for college.

Classic event! I hate popular people. They just think they own everyone and are perfect.

To answer the question, he was being very harsh. Can't the girl talk for herself? Even if the weirdest kid would come up to you, why ignore him or let a guy brush him off. How stuck up can you be to do that? I would have said to him to shut the f up and let the girl talk for herself. Probably would get in a fight but I don't care.

A little. He could have asked the girl if she was being bothered if she seemed uncomfortable and cornered.

Harsh? I don't know. I certainly think it seems a bit of a strange thing to say, though.

Hierarchy blindness is probably the most maladaptive aspie trait. If you?re raising an aspie and really want to help them, warn them as early as possible about it and help them research the topic. On the other hand, it can be argued that natural selection should be allowed to do its job and thus we should not be warned, nor should we be helped to learn things the way it works best for us.

I don?t think it was strange at all. Harsh or not, it boils down to the girl not speaking for herself (perhaps she enjoyed letting her friend protect her, optimizing her attention-received-vs-attention-given balance), and the male friend seizing the chance to act like a white knight, improving his status by fending off a ?lesser? male from her and putting him in his place.

If the aspie guy is anything like me, he?ll probably not be able to learn anything from the experience, or the lesson will be a simple ?girls are not for you?stay away from them?.

Yes, and it's rude too. Sounds like the typical narcist male b***h.

I don't know if "harsh" is the right way to describe it. More like rude. If the guy is not her boyfriend, theres no reason why the other guy can't talk to her. Even if they were in a relationship, it would be okay(assuming that he wasn't trying to flirt/hit on her).

If he was trying to talk to her in a creepy way, then I can see why her male friend would say something like that, like maybe he was trying to protect her. I think that girls should be able to speak for themselves on stuff like that.

If not, then it sounds a little rude to me.