What is your preferred way to meet someone?

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Vomelche
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12 Aug 2014, 11:33 am

I prefer to approach women that I know, or have a reason to believe, are genuinely interested in me. This has been most practical for me so far if looking for a relationship, and not just to flirt. I would generally approach anywhere, as long as I am more less comfortable with the place.



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12 Aug 2014, 11:53 am

These are the most common ways to meet a partner:
1. Online (messageboard, dating site)
2. Common interest (dancing, sport, etc.)
3. Work
4. Students association or sorority
5. Uni or college
6. Bars
7. Festivals



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12 Aug 2014, 3:22 pm

I like to meet people through friends. I like that old fashioned thing of being introduced to someone before you strike up a conversation, but that hasn't been done since Jane Austin times, but I do prefer it if someone introduces me to a friend. I think it's because it's like a recommendation, "here's my friend, you might like them." I like it kept casual, I'm not talking about matchmakers meddling here, but just being introduced to a friend of a friend. I feel like I know then that they are ok to talk to me and I'm not some weird random going up and talking to a stranger.


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12 Aug 2014, 3:44 pm

I can't imagine meeting a partner through a friend because i only have two friends, both female and both with very little male friends.



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12 Aug 2014, 4:56 pm

online.

I have few friends and they all "say" they don't know any single women, except my sister who feels akward introducing me to a girl and has been delaying it for months.



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12 Aug 2014, 5:21 pm

I've tried online dating, but the initial messaging parts of it tend to stress me out, and I quite often would ask people out on the same day of first contact just to avoid text-based communication, for the most part. I find it's /far/ easier for me to understand and be comfortable with communications face-to-face, mostly so that I can read their posture, tonalities, and facial expressions and react+reciprocate to them in real time. Also, a lot of the better parts of my personality are almost completely lost when I'm not communicating IRL with someone.
Truthfully, online dating has consistently not worked at all for me (though I may try it again for practice), and so therefore my most favored way of "meeting people" would be through school related things. I find that relations can progress favorably with a familiar and shared distraction such as schoolwork and classes. However, I also have a strict "no dating classmates during the semester" policy, sooo I basically have no way to meet people I'm even remotely interested in, right now. hahah I'll probably just have to try out the online dating scene, again! Not too many interesting or intelligent people on there, but it's better than staying stagnant within the socializing world. Gotta keep up that practice ;)



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12 Aug 2014, 5:58 pm

I've only been in one relationship with someone I knew at school for a while beforehand for four months (and we are still friends which is very important to me), and I've only been on a handful of dates (I'd like to think of them as dates) with someone I know from Church, who is still the one I care about and slowly trying to win over. So I'm with the OP on this one with going out with women I already know and preferably in a place familiar to both of us. I've never tried online dating or matchmaking and probably never will. It feels like it is too much of a gamble on how things would work. I'm the kind of guy that is absolutely terrified of hurting someone, weather I know them well or not, and I would do anything in my power to make sure I don't do that, and feel horrible for days if I do.



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12 Aug 2014, 7:51 pm

In terms of meeting someone to date, I've never met anyone.



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13 Aug 2014, 9:24 am

Oops, I think I misunderstood the thread. My comment was how I would prefer to meet people, not how I actually meet people. I don't ever meet anyone who wants to go on a date with me. Last date I was on was years ago with someone my sister introduced to me. They were good friends. He took me out for a coffee. I can't even remember how long ago it was. Since then there has been no one. Tumble weed.

My closest friends don't know any single men at all. Every so often an acquaintance of an acquaintance comes out of the woodwork, but they disappear as quick as they arrived.


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13 Aug 2014, 9:55 am

Through friends seems to be the easiest way to do it. They aren't strangers and I already know some information about them so it makes it less intimidating. The problem is finding friends who are available and I have to be able to.


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14 Aug 2014, 1:26 am

I prefer to see them somewhere and flirting with them for a long time before going any further. This is the best part, so I want it to last for a long time. Then I just go into a relationship with them.

Didn't happen that often, but it's amazing when it does.

A good setup is some event where both attend for some time.

I've never done traditional dating, and I feel that online dating would just take all the fun out of.



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14 Aug 2014, 4:11 am

hurtloam wrote:
Oops, I think I misunderstood the thread. My comment was how I would prefer to meet people, not how I actually meet people. I don't ever meet anyone who wants to go on a date with me. Last date I was on was years ago with someone my sister introduced to me. They were good friends. He took me out for a coffee. I can't even remember how long ago it was. Since then there has been no one. Tumble weed.

My closest friends don't know any single men at all. Every so often an acquaintance of an acquaintance comes out of the woodwork, but they disappear as quick as they arrived.


raises hand.

though can't say if we'd match up but i'd go on a date.
I had a date 2 weeks ago but before that it was at least a year.



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14 Aug 2014, 7:14 am

sly279 wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Oops, I think I misunderstood the thread. My comment was how I would prefer to meet people, not how I actually meet people. I don't ever meet anyone who wants to go on a date with me. Last date I was on was years ago with someone my sister introduced to me. They were good friends. He took me out for a coffee. I can't even remember how long ago it was. Since then there has been no one. Tumble weed.

My closest friends don't know any single men at all. Every so often an acquaintance of an acquaintance comes out of the woodwork, but they disappear as quick as they arrived.


raises hand.

though can't say if we'd match up but i'd go on a date.
I had a date 2 weeks ago but before that it was at least a year.


Awh that's sweet Mr Fox, but we live on different continents.


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14 Aug 2014, 7:29 am

1- Friends of friends.
2- Activities like hiking, rafting, trips...etc
3- Gym
4- Online
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14 Aug 2014, 9:43 am

My preferred list...

1: Friends
2: Friends of friends
3: Common activities (sports, tabletop gaming, whatever)
4: Online
5: Small party
6: Bar
7: Public festival