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sly279
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12 Aug 2014, 5:05 pm

why so so so many women demand this :(

further proof I need to die. I just don't have ambition. I also won't ever make $22 an hour who the f**k does now a days o.O

I am the type of guy to be happy working a min wage or just above min wage job, living in the same city for his whole life.

i mean I have lived most my life on way way below min wage, so getting $10 an hour is a s**t ton of money to me, but they see it as very little. most construction jobs pay 10-13 security 10-13. I can't think of a non excutive job that pays 22 and up aside from very very very good and expeirnced mechanics that might make 25 if they do 2-5 cars an hour. but theres no carrer ladder to climb in thos jobs so no ambtion, so i only imaigne they mean office jobs, jobs that could lead to being a ceo.

so f*****g sick of it.

really so no point in continuing to live and try.



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12 Aug 2014, 7:19 pm

Hey Sly.

There is nothing wrong with having a minimum wage job. If you love what you're doing and you get joy out of it, then you've already accomplished a lot. There are people in this world that may have higher-paying jobs than you, but that doesn't necessarily mean that their life is more fulfilling. So try not to let others cloud your vision of what success is; define what success means to you, and if you haven't achieved it yet, then strive towards it.

Does that sort of make sense?

Well, in any case, I hope you feel better.



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12 Aug 2014, 8:00 pm

How about going to college, Sly?

You could get that elusive $20/hr. job if you go to college.



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12 Aug 2014, 8:28 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
How about going to college, Sly?

You could get that elusive $20/hr. job if you go to college.


That is no longer a true statement in this day and age. Too many jobs exported and the ones that remain are of specialists (market quite saturated) or services which are minimum wage and barely above.

As ironic as it sounds, you have a better chance at making it by leaving the US.



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12 Aug 2014, 8:34 pm

There's still many jobs in the US. Sly has a better chance to get a decent salary if he goes to college. Many civil service jobs require a college degree these days. It's still good to be a civil servant.

When I started working, we were in both a recession and an inflationary period. People were getting laid off like flies.

What's true is that it's HARDER to get a job QUICKLY because the interview process is so much longer these days. Many jobs now require about three interviews over like a week. I got my job in one day in 1980.



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12 Aug 2014, 8:35 pm

You have to be highly skilled for another country to give you a work permit.

I have a BA, and I'm still not skilled enough to get a Canadian work permit.



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12 Aug 2014, 9:05 pm

it is tough to make a living and keep one's head above water.



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12 Aug 2014, 9:30 pm

I'm fortunate that I learned how to tread water when I was seven.



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12 Aug 2014, 9:34 pm

i went to college and got a degree. i can't do the work though even still it would been geting paid 9-13 dollars, maybe if i got good and could do stuff fast without mistakes and after years of hard work $17 flat rate. which means you get paid 3 hours even if the job takes 6. my friend gets $6 an hour and percentage per job at sears. min wage here is $9.10
can't go back to college as I used up all my grants and loans on the first degree. I have like 20k combined debt that I will never pay off. that there is a deal breaker for most women.

the problem with me being happy in a job that pays 10-11 an hour is that I want love and to have a companion and most women seem to agree on a guy must have his life together/abmition/(decent car, decent job, and own place)

imaging being that short guy who really wants to ride the ride, but he isn't tall enough and can't grow. so every year he goes and they tell him no. course my thing is every day

like even the jobless homeless, mooch woman demands that, same with the women working part time at fast food etc. its like the universal code to what a boyfriend must have or something.

how is it posible that so so many women say the same exact thing unless its a thing society beats into their head. are all women really so ambitious .



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12 Aug 2014, 9:38 pm

I forgot: what'd you get your degree in? Sorry I forgot.



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13 Aug 2014, 3:46 am

automotive.

didn't have much time to explore what field I could work and do well in. the system is deisgned to push you to a major or drop you. perhaps some kind of office field would have been better or security or leo. i'll never know.



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13 Aug 2014, 3:22 pm

If you have at least 60 college credits, you could become an LEO in most places.



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14 Aug 2014, 4:29 am

think I did like 120. but they want people who did stuff in relation to leo. we actually have degree programs for it here. crinmial justice or law. then also tend to favor people with tech degrees.

I don't really have the shape currently . I would like to get a gym membership if i could when I get a job. I just want access to a treadmill really.

just about every woman demands these things. I can't help but feel worthless and like I just need to kill myself. really is no hope of a life for me. can't be loved cause I wasn't lucky in employment and looks.

kraftiekortie wrote:
To echo Mr Boo, I would say the best thing to do is to let him know how you feel; otherwise, there's confusion all around.

Good luck in your life with him. I hope you become his "only one."

I wasn't talking about "fixing" him per se; I don't think people with Asperger's need to be 'fixed." I'm speaking more along the lines of nurturing.


lot about me needs fixed. aspergers is a big part of it.
I often wonder where i'd be now if i didn't have it. probably a lot better of . in the marines. maybe dead. but atleast I would have done something and died worthy. but there is no cure or fix for this disease.



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14 Aug 2014, 6:19 pm

You can "have your life together" making $10-11 an hour. For a while, I was fully supporting myself on $13 an hour (apartment+car+food+entertainment). Sure, I wasn't exactly putting anything into savings, but I was able to live quite comfortably at that rate in a nice area without really missing out on anything. At $10-11 I could have probably done the same, I just would have been forced to change my diet and eat cheap bulk foods, like rice/lentils. And if you live at home or with a roommate(s) on those wages, you can have more than enough money to get by.

When women say they want you to have your life together, they usually mean that they don't want to support you, and they want you to be happy with your life. If you are satisfied with where your life is at, then that is all that matters in my opinion. I think that most women you meet will be able to understand and appreciate that, even if you are making minimum wage. Don't judge yourself by other people's criteria for what your life should be. One of the best decisions I ever made was to stop caring what other people thought of me and just do what made me happy!

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I can't think of a non excutive job that pays 22 and up aside from very very very good and expeirnced mechanics that might make 25 if they do 2-5 cars an hour. but theres no carrer ladder to climb in thos jobs so no ambtion, so i only imaigne they mean office jobs, jobs that could lead to being a ceo.


Many jobs in the medical field pays in that neighborhood, and require very little education or training. As far as I know, a lot of those technician jobs (like ultrasound tech) only require like 1-2yrs of training, and aren't terribly difficult (you basically operate the hospital diagnostic machines). I can think of several others, but the medical ones tend to pay the most with the least amount of required education. I don't know that you want to pursue that route, but thought I'd mention it.



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15 Aug 2014, 2:42 am

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You can "have your life together" making $10-11 an hour. For a while, I was fully supporting myself on $13 an hour (apartment+car+food+entertainment). Sure, I wasn't exactly putting anything into savings, but I was able to live quite comfortably at that rate in a nice area without really missing out on anything. At $10-11 I could have probably done the same, I just would have been forced to change my diet and eat cheap bulk foods, like rice/lentils. And if you live at home or with a roommate(s) on those wages, you can have more than enough money to get by.

When women say they want you to have your life together, they usually mean that they don't want to support you, and they want you to be happy with your life. If you are satisfied with where your life is at, then that is all that matters in my opinion. I think that most women you meet will be able to understand and appreciate that, even if you are making minimum wage. Don't judge yourself by other people's criteria for what your life should be. One of the best decisions I ever made was to stop caring what other people thought of me and just do what made me happy!

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I can't think of a non excutive job that pays 22 and up aside from very very very good and expeirnced mechanics that might make 25 if they do 2-5 cars an hour. but theres no carrer ladder to climb in thos jobs so no ambtion, so i only imaigne they mean office jobs, jobs that could lead to being a ceo.


Many jobs in the medical field pays in that neighborhood, and require very little education or training. As far as I know, a lot of those technician jobs (like ultrasound tech) only require like 1-2yrs of training, and aren't terribly difficult (you basically operate the hospital diagnostic machines). I can think of several others, but the medical ones tend to pay the most with the least amount of required education. I don't know that you want to pursue that route, but thought I'd mention it.


i currently live off of 700(would be like $4 an hour if was work) a month with 150 extra every 3 months. so making 10-11 an hour if i get my debt wiped clean and lower my school loan payments to 50 a monty would be doable. but if i lose 25% of my income to debt then 250 a month to school loans I will lose money each month. some women will get clear on what they mean and its 22 an hour a 2010-2014 car and your own appartment/house. I won't ever have those.

if that was so why wouldn't they say I don't want to have to support you. or must support yourself. or must be self sufficient.
demanding a guy have a job seems more about making sure the guy can provide money to them or pay for their dates.
wher as a guy who supports himself might not have the extra money to pay for things for her or pay her half of the dates.

the problem with not caring about what others think is hard when you want one of those people to love you, you have to care what they think.
they seem to want a guy who will help pay for the nice things they want ie, vacations, cars, homes, etc. I really don't care for those things. I vacation to a family' members house near the beach if I can afford the gas and food, that or camping. I don't desire much to vacation on cruise or in itatly . as long as women see me as worthless due to this . I don't expect i'll ever find love, as I can't change who I am. i am doomed.

i've been able to save and afford things I want tablet, mp3 player, ps4. it takes longer then someone who makes more but I get there. when it comes to things besides dreaming of a new car with no problems. I have all the objects that should bring me happiness, but my happiness is found via social interactions sadly. objects only bring temporaly happiness. and might be a wast of money in the long run. I bought a vita, it make me happy for the first week, but I haven't used it much. I could have used that money to save for something else. but meh. that is the problem with trying to fill a void with objects. only way is to keep buying more and often. if i was rich I suppose this could mostly work but as a poor person I can't keep it up. if i was rich i'd just buy a new gun every week, feels like christmas.

idk I hate math and have memory problems. also what if you mess up won't the patient get hurt?
i might not mind the work , though getting the training is unlikely. the gov won't pay for anymore school for me, and I never could win scholarships. they don't think i've done enough with my life to deserve them.

everyone seems to think i'm worthless to be honest, except close friends, but they could just be lying to make me feel better(something Nt's do)



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16 Aug 2014, 11:04 pm

OK, sorry for being off-topic, but why is the meaning of "abmiton" in the thread title? When you google it, this thread is the first search result, which is quite a feat.


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