How are you treated by NTs?

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I had to tell one of my professors that I have accommodations and she pretty much forced me to tell here what was 'wrong' with me. I told her I'm autistic and this was the first time I've told anybody I haven't known for most of my life. She said, "Wow, you're so high-functioning!! !!" and patted me on the back (which I HATE!). Then, today she saw that I completed all my homework and said, "Wow, good job! You did really well!" in a really childish voice and to the rest of the class she just passed by and said nothing. I feel that she is treating me like I'm a child or have a learning disability and it's really annoying me. I've only been in her class for two days so maybe she will see I am a very competent person. What can I do to stop this if she doesn't see? And how have others treated you?

print her off some handouts on aspergers/HFA,that might help with getting some understanding.

am very obviously disabled [regardless of being a wheelchair user] so get patronised by anyone that we come across in the community,have always been used to it,its just part of the job.

am regulary treated like do not exist and people speak around self to the support staff or family,where they shoud at least acknowledge existance,the worst one is when people have said to staff 'its a shame' when they hear of the autism & ID,no its not am living a good quality of life with them due to having good support.

yesterday was treated like did not exist or any say in a matter; at nine am,two blokes finaly called around [no phonecall] to fit a 'tough furniture' cabinet to the wall in bedroom and was asleep in bed at the time; in just a sports bra and nappy.
woke up in a massive panic from their banging and surprise visit,fell off the bed ,self injured on the wall and hit out at them because was in so much overload, the workers never even stopped they carried on using heavy duty drills right next to self- did not exist to them,fking unbelievable.

have got two support staff but one of them was busy showing around the parents and social worker of a possible new resident and the other was aparently running around in the hall not knowing what to do,asking them to wait while and letting the resident get changed and out of the room woud have been helpful.

I was either picked on/bullied, or totally ignored like I was invisible. often I was discussed in my presence as though I wasn't even there.

I don't want to make anyone feel bad, but how could this NOT be a person with some kind of PD? how is this not a person that is beginning to create a victim mentality of somekind? How is this not baiting? Maybe some conformation bias in there somewhere. Perhaps adult grooming? Hyper vigilance? Identity disturbance? Manipulation? Triggering? And that other one I cannot remember the name of when a narcissist treats you, and talks to you like a child.

Could be wrong but I'm just saying. Congratulations! Your college may be paying a teacher who has a personality disorder, and you are paying to deal with her. My only question to you is, is it worth it?

The best way to deal with a person like this is to do nothing about it, and get away from her as quickly as you can. It may take years. Otherwise she may make things worse for you. However if you are up for the challenge of getting her to treat you like an actual human being, than go for it. Good luck!

By telling a person like this that you have a neurological disorder, is saying too much. She probably sees it as a disability. You did not tell her that either. She extracted it from you.

yournamehere,
that is a bit over the top,people do not have personality disorders because they patronise the crap out of someone, if thats true then every human have ever come across in the community must be personality disordered,which really isnt true.
patronising is done through ignorance,have had support staff in the past who were highly patronising at the start as they had never worked with someone with severe classic autism before and only knew the stereotypes,they eventualy became a favoured support staff of mine and are now highly knowledgeable of autism in all its forms and colours.

Well I think they do have one for behaving that way, and you cannot make me believe otherwise. If someone wants to be ignorant, and project a negative view towards you, about you, I cannot see ANY other way to describe it. This is a strange and unhealthy behavior. It can make me, and others sick. It is a behavior that is wrong, and rarely changes. they know full well what they are doing, and why (it makes sence to them). This is not your typical natural bull elephant, butts heads with the teenage elephant in order to get him to stop picking on the little animals, and wrecking the trees type of scenario. If she is playing a "who's the boss" game, than her tact is all out of whack. It is disordered.

I am happy for you to have such a positive support structure. of course as you said it did not come without some form of change, or training on both parts I'm sure. It should show you how people were just brought up wrong. With disorders like a chain going back thousands of years. Hundreds of generations, and beyond.

I am not without serious flaws either. Some things, and some people never change.

Dealing with behaviors like this are my biggest weakness. I want to fix it. It's broke. I think it is wrong. You usually can't fix things like this. unfortunately.

Everytime I tell an NT that I have autism, they don't believe me. I've had undiagnosed Autism for almost 23 years... therefore I've built myself a LOT of compensation mechanisms, to the point where I think I do a pretty good job of hiding my Aspie quirks... usually.

I also find NTs frustrating to speak with as they almost NEVER understand what I'm trying to say. I also find a majority of people to be oblivious, insensitive and rude. Maybe it's just an NT thing. I don't know.

I hate generalizing people though

I'm sorry you had to go through what you went through with that cabinet installer, KOR

Hugely insensitive on their part!

Did your care team know about the visit of the cabinet installer? If so, a huge mistake on their part for not telling you ahead of time

I have not yet reached a point where I divide the world between NT's and the neurodiverse. I grew up in a NT world and live and work every day of my life in an NT world. There are some nice people and some nasty people and some, perhaps many who are a mix of good and bad. I just don't see the NT world as something different from just the world - since they do in fact make up the vast overwhelming majority and always will.

Sometimes like crap, sometimes decently.