Sick of making an appointment to talk to my friends

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You know, I get really damned tired of having to ask my friends if they have time for me. Last month, I went 700 miles down to Alabama to visit a good friend of mine. Right before I left, he met a woman and they started to date. I get that when you start to date someone that it is new and fresh, but I am kind of sad and pissed off that he can't take two minutes out of his day to answer a simple "how are you doing?".

I try to keep contact, but facebook and the phone works both ways.

We have to be fun and interesting enough that people come to us...

Good luck figuring that one out...

He was doing that long before he told you.
just he didn't care to let you know until he felt challenged.
He just liked the attention you gave him.
seek someone closer too you, where the truth is more available.

I think that is part of the problem. I have moved to so many different places that I have friends scattered all over the country.

I had friends here where I live until it went to pot. It always seems to go to pot.

Don't let people use you. Paradoxically, the more you let people use you, the less friends you keep. In these instances, you become like a soda (pop) bottle, worthy only of the trash bin (to those people who use you).

You're better than that!

Make friends only with people who don't use you. Who are independent and don't rely on constant favors. I've been that route--the favor doer. It doesn't work in the end. Only make friends based upon common interests.

Know anyone who enjoys fantasy sports, weather, and highways?

Most of the time, I'm met with a "oh that is so awesome" while they wished they were somewhere else. Nowadays, I don't even bother explaining what I am doing to other people. I ignore them if they ask.

Could you explain what you mean about making an appointment just to talk with a friend?

Did your friend tell you in advance that he met someone or did spring it on you un-announded? Either way it sounds like you might look into contacting him and ask if he has a minute to speak with you.

Actually, if your friend met a new romance, you can expect them to want to devote most of their time and attention to them.

It isn't just him, I used him as an example.

It just seems like I have to make an appointment to talk to my so-called friends. I either get ignored or forgotten about.

He met this woman right before I went to visit him, but he also begged me to drive down and visit him beforehand.

Anyways, I think I will just end all of my friendships and go at it alone from now on.

Thank you guys for your time.

I want to apologize for that last post. I feel like it was rude and uncalled for.

If someone quoted you that stays, but there is a little x by your own posts you can use to delete and you can edit as well. Not saying you should, just if you want to.

I'm not seeing the "x", but thank you anyways .

Whats a real friend? all i know is those acquaintances here on forums.

The x only seems to be available to delete for a short time. The edit button stays though. At least I think it does.