Have people said you look angry (when you're not)?

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All the time. Or that I look "entirely emotionless" when in fact, I'm very upset. I also tend to laugh at the wrong times when I'm nervous or sad and some people think I'm being rude to them on purpose.

Yes, I do this occasionally too. I don't know why, but often when someone is telling me that something very serious happened I feel an urge to smile or laugh, and I really don't know why. It is very hard to hide too, so it is pretty frustrating as I know I don't actually find what they are saying to be funny, but there's no easy way to explain that.

Mmmhmm. Just yesterday it happened. A relative's kid fell and hit her head (she was fine), and I was worried of course, but I had to hold back laughter. I'm glad she didn't glance over at me.

I tend to laugh when someone gets angry, which could prove dangerous if you laugh at the wrong kind of person. It's a nervous reaction.

Yes, I do that one as well. Not fun at all.

Yes, all the time. "Scowling" is the word they use sometimes. People have become so used to performing for each other that the absence of a smile is considered a bad thing. But it doesn't mean I'm angry; usually I'm just thinking.

Yes, I get that all the time. The thing is I'm not angry when I say something, but people close to me who I think should know me better, say that I am. Then I exclaim that I'm not angry. They don't believe me! Then I try to tone down what I'm saying and lose the thread of the conversation. Perhaps that's what people wanted in the first place. To shut me up.

No, not angry, but they do seem to think I look sad or worried. I've been plagued all my life by comments from perfect strangers: "Cheer up!" "Smile, it may never happen!" When I'm walking along feeling perfectly neutral, not sad.

My face "at rest" is just a bit sad looking but it's because I'm nearly always tired and lost in thought.

When I'm truly feeling sad I actively try to hide that and put on what I think is my neutral face. Something obviously is not working...

People don't say I look angry but their reactions suggest that they think I'm angry. Some people start talking to me very carefully/tactfully not to "further offend me", almost trying to pacify a difficult customer. Others respond by getting angry themselves at "my anger", raising their voice, when I think I'm being polite and friendly and there's absolutely no negative factor in the situation. Still others start trying to explain themselves as if they had to. I believe it's mostly because my fear of people makes me tense/nervous and people falsely sense "anger" in my tense voice and facial expression. It's really sad that I get misunderstood in this way very often. Not all people get it wrong though.

No most of the time if I look angry I am angry.

I have had people say this to me when I was just sitting thinking or during a conversation. I think my natural face is kind of angry looking. Maybe its that we are so focused on figuring the world out that the strain shows on our faces. I try to be more conscious of what face I have on.

As child and young adult I often heard, "smile!", "Uh! You look angry", "Did I pee on your sugarcake?", or "Stop looking like the muse of sorrow" - and all, I could register,. was a sometimes painful tension in my face.
Didn´t know it had to do with autism either.

I have been asked that question fairly frequently for the past few years. Just because I look angry doesn't mean I am angry. I am usually quite released most of the time.

I have a problem with smiling when something really bad happens to someone. Last year my teacher announced that she was getting treated for breast cancer. I had to cover my face.

Yep. My whole life. My husband fondly calls it "resting b**** face" - when we first got together he asked me all the time if I was mad or sad. Now he knows i just don't have a "friendly" neutral expression.

I'm only just now putting the pieces together that I have AS tendencies since we are seeing evaluation for my oldest child. Explains sooooo much...including my "resting b**** face" that I wasn't aware of for the longest time.

Yes. people have told me that I look angry when I am not. Some have even insisted that I am even after I have told them that I am not. It happens when I am overloaded and zoned on or super concentrating on something and no one realizes that that is what I am doing.