Why do people suddenly stop talking?

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Not if he only said "hi" even if he was hot enough for me. I mean how hard can it be to read the profile and come up with a few sentences about something on it? I'm not interested in someone who is not even bothered to do that. But this is how I am. Not sure about other women.

In the US in a crowded bar where young people are there to meet the opposite sex, it's very common to ignore someone they don't want to talk to. They'll just turn around or walk away.


"Hi" is as bad as "hey babe". And I have been completely swooned by a first message that made the guy seem even more attractive. He was attractive enough and had an interesting profile but if he had only said "hi" I would most certainly not have replied.

Last edited by Yuzu on 25 Oct 2014, 7:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You can call me a liar if you want but the answer for me is "no". I barely look at the thumbnail pic and definitely don't open their profile (so how do I even know if they are interesting?) before I hit DELETE.

Because match percentage is ONE tool on that site to measure compatibility. There are plenty of others, like your looks, your interests, any of the stuff you have in your profile basically. I've had a 99%er who I didn't find physically attractive from the main pic but I had more of a look at his profile in case there were more pics and he was an awesome person. I couldn't relate to his profile at all. There were so many reasons we were not a good match. So the percentage thing is very handy but certainly not perfect.

i have no idea why you should care. you sound rather cranky or something and whatever. so sober and sensitive are you.


oh yeah, "hi" by the way.
and "see you later" too,
i really don't want to know you....
(so sorry).
but yeah the "hi" was completely genuine,
but now it's completely gone.

so i guess there is no further.......
worry.

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What do I do then?

I don't see how this could be the problem. That would mean the other millions of average guys would have the same difficulties and OkC would have been more widely reviewed as being useless long ago.

it becomes hard when you've done it hundreds of time and get nothing back.

for me it takes like 5-20 mins to address stuff from profiles and try to put it in the message. I use to do this a lot as I was really interested in them after reading their profiles and girls said they liked guys who did this. but the result is the same it was not cost/benefit efficient.

I wasted lots of time, effort and self esteem on this. I got more responses with just hi or howdy hows your day messages. and its mostly what women send to me as well. an ice breaker as most call it. to gauge interest then the 2nd message is more about interests and similarities.
ok should adopt winks/icebreaker options like other sites, but they make their money off of hiding who likes you until you pay them monthly, so that will never happen.