Cafeaulait wrote:
linatet wrote:
androbot01 wrote:
linatet wrote:
androbot01 wrote:
Would this be your first sexual relationship then?
Yup...
I don't want him to deceive me, take away my virginity and just disappear you know?
Well don't do it unless you physically want to. You will know if you physically want to as it will be obvious. Like, you would feel drawn to be close to him. Look at it this way, if you do it because you get physical pleasure from it then it doesn't matter if he goes or not. You come away with a positive. Regarding your virginity, I wouldn't bother one way or the other ... just do what you enjoy doing. And if you don't enjoy it don't do it - bad memories last.
Thanks for the advice !
I guess your right. The problem is that when I think we have some kind of connection I feel turned on, but when I think he could be deceiving me I feel bad and used and not turned on at all. So my physical pleasure actually depends on the matter.
Why do you not want him to be yourfriend? You want a connection, you don't want him to leave you after he has had sex, but you do not want him as a boyfriend? Sounds freaking weird to me.
I don't want a relationship (and he probably doesn't either) because he is going back to the US!
The thing is I don't want to be used or deceived. Let's put it this way:
1-if he likes me and also wants sex - okay
2- if he wants to have a relationship - okay
3- if he is pretending to like me only for sex - not okay