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Jamesy
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21 Nov 2014, 7:07 am

My mum said me the other day "you are setting yourself up for a miserable life" i asked her "why" and she responded "because your friends are maturing and you are not"

why would my friends maturing have anything to do with effecting my quality of life?



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21 Nov 2014, 8:00 am

I do not know your life story but I will not make assumptions either. I'm not sure why she even said that to you. How are your friends "maturing" as your mom puts it. I feel like I would need more details to answer that second question. If you are happy where your life is, that is great.



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21 Nov 2014, 8:28 am

I aint happy



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21 Nov 2014, 9:11 am

most likely, she fears that your friends will outgrow you and, in time, break off contact.
(rightfully so, i might add).

losing friends will usually have a negative impact on your happiness, especially if it happens to be your last one(s).



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21 Nov 2014, 9:39 am

What do you mean outgrow?



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21 Nov 2014, 10:13 am

You have to outgrow being dependent upon other people You're a grown man. You have to rely on yourself more.