Referring to people by name

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I've noticed that I have the same problem. I practically never use others' names in conversations (in person, email, or text messages) as it feels awkward and uncomfortable. Despite this avoidance, I'm not too bad at remembering names.

I don't really have a problem when others use my name while talking to me (even though I find it pointless), but it's quite annoying when a person mentions it in almost every sentence.

I have the exact problem! Ever since I was a kid I never felt comfortable calling people by their first name. Like others have said, it's awkward and uncomfortable. I have to assume this is a thing with ASD?

Wow! This is true and has always been the case. I thought that I was the only one that didn't use peoples' names. I think that it is partially due to the fact that I simply don't remember peoples names. Try as I will, there are few names that I can remember and those seem to be only after I hear the name multiple times, spoken by several people.

When I have to start a conversation or call for someone, I'll either just say, "Hey" or something else that's like an icebreaker so I can talk to them, or as others have mentioned, I talk in the general direction of the person.

There are other times that I don't use names, but don't know why. For example, I never called my dad, “Dad”. I always referred to him as “Fath”, which was short for father. I don't know why Dad just didn't seem to flow. I called my mom, “Mom” and “Ma” and that seemed natural.

It's very comforting to know that that are others that are similar.

I have a hard time remembering people's names if I don't interact with them regularly.

I don't think I've ever used someone's name when talking to them unless it was to get their attention when there are others present. Saying something like "Hi, John." or "John, you should....." just seems weird to me.
I don't have any problem using people's names if they come up in conversation with someone else, though.

I wish I could pick up this habit. I have zero memory for names. Unless the person is really hot, then its not a problem,

I used to have trouble saying the names of my classmates; like, if my mom asked me who a certain person was, I wouldn't want to say their name. Especially if it was an unusual name, and especially if I had a crush on the person. It wasn't a speech defect or anything; it just felt uncomfortable. I don't know why.

I had similar problems saying the names of places and the names of my favourite books, songs, etc. Again, I don't know why. Maybe it just felt a bit too personal? It's only recently that I got better with this.

Yes! I hate referring to people by name, it's weird.

Me too. I usually just say "hey".