Am I supposed to ask for a raise?

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I don't really know. It seems that some people will do it if they really want a raise, but is that the expected thing to do in every case, or else you get no raise ever? I asked a coworker how he got his raise, and apparently you aren't supposed to ask people that I guess he originally let slip about his raise by accident, as he was kind of surprised I knew about it, and then told me that it's a big no-no to ask coworkers about their pay/raises in the workplace. He wasn't mad, as it was kind of his fault for telling me, and I guess if I told on him about it he'd be in trouble. But he still said he couldn't really tell me how he go his raise, as he shouldn't have said anything. I was kind of confused about it at first, but I guess it probably has to do with jealousy, rivalry etc.

Anyway, I would feel very uncomfortable going in to ask my boss for more money; it just seems presumptuous, like going in and saying, "Hey, you don't pay me enough. I want more." I just don't like asking for things, ever. My family always thought it's because I have this high and mighty attitude, that I can do everything all on my own and I don't need anyone. Really, it's because I usually feel undeserving, or I just don't know how the person will react at all, which kind of scares me.

But if I want a raise, do I pretty much have to ask?

He's only worked there a about 1.5 months longer than I have, and I've only been working there for 1.5 months myself. He makes a dollar more an hour. Part of it is that when he started working he was the only one in the position, normally they have 2 people, but some people had just quit. So he right off the bat had a lot of responsibility. But we technically have the same job title, and started with the same amount. He is unofficially my immediate supervisor, only in the sense that he knows more than I do so I can get in trouble with the actual supervisor if I don't listen to him. I did actually get in trouble for that, even though I didn't realize he was actually telling me, "Hey, you need to do this." To me it sounded like a suggestion (he said it like, "Hey, if you want to, go ahead and do this."), and I was busy with something else and so I told him I would do that when I finished what I was doing. Then he told the supervisor that I was ignoring him and I got in a bit of trouble.

A lot of times I just get confused, because I don't understand what people mean or why this thing works better like this, that kind of thing. And so I seem to be acting belligerent when I am genuinely not understanding. Apparently, "I don't get it" means "I don't believe you" to them.

But anyway, most of why I'm uncomfortable is I don't even know how they think I'm doing. I mean, they will say "good job" a lot, which would seem to mean I'm doing a good job, but they also will get annoyed when something is wrong, and they've never formally told me one-on-one about my performance. So I would feel really stupid if I went in thinking I was doing well and asked for a raise, and then find out that they actually aren't very satisfied with my job performance. If that were the case then their opinion of me would probably worsen.

You've only been working at your place 1.5 months. It would make you look ridiculous if you asked for a raise. I would wait at least a year. And only if your attendance and performance are consistently good over that year.

As others have said: 1.5 months is a bit too soon to start asking for a raise.

So what do you do in the mean time, how long do you need to wait, how do you go about asking for one?

You've mentioned that you have received some positive feedback, but it's nondescript - "good job"

Never be afraid to ask someone more experienced for help in learning a new skill, or how to do what you are doing better. It's perfectly okay for you to request a private one-on-one meeting with your boss, or supervisor, and ask them for some mentoring. It's in the companies best interest for you to do well at your job, and to enjoy doing it.

I festered and stewed for several years at my job before I started coaching sessions with my boss. Once a month, or so, we meet and talk about what I am doing, and how I can be doing it better and what help I need. Since then I've felt more confident about my job, and I look forward to going to work.

Give the mentoring and coaching at least six months, and instead of asking for more money - ask what it takes for you to move up to the next level.

I'd only outright ask for a raise if my job duties changed in a sense that would warrant one. But I'd look at that on a micro level, clearly s**t can get foisted on you in small increments etc. and if it adds up to where there's actual evidence to say "here's the difference in my general duties then vs. now", then sure.

I don't think I've ever been in a spot where I really felt the need to ask for a raise. Based on what it sounds like my company is planning for me though (basically to do half the total work of the other 3 people in my department, in addition to my own, without any more pay), I might have to press them for a lot more chips.

I'm not sure how old you are but you should know by working age that talking about salary with co-workers is a big No-no (Even though its in your best interest to discuss them)




Generally speaking you wait till a year of employment and ask for a raise ,some employers do a yearly review/raises .


When it comes to asking for a raise ,just steer the conversation to the cost of living /price of codes and then into your wage.It's pretty simple.