Do you ever feel jealous of other people's normal Lives?

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20 Dec 2014, 1:04 am

I'm jealous of NTs from the point of view that all three of my brothers have been able to have had good jobs. Maybe not all the time, but enough where they've had enough money to pay a mortgage and have their own houses.

I'm one of those aspies that long for security and stability, and it's two of those things that one doesn't have with renting, and lack of money, because one doesn't know all the finer social rules of being in the NT club - the bare essentials for getting a job here in Sydney. I've never seen paid work since leaving school, and feel that my asperger's has pretty much destroyed most of my meaningful social and occupational life.

This place is very focused on the outgoing, partying, funny, witty, and busy Neurotypical. One having asperger's syndrome is a real no goer here. I feel most of the time that I'm an outcast, and ICollectWatches just couldn't of nailed it better.

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Yes.

I have acquaintances. I'd like to have friends.

I have a roof over my head. I don't own it, not because I haven't earned enough money, but because being depressed and lonely has made me spend all my money trying to buy happiness. Or at least entertainment.

My home is cluttered with all the aforementioned happiness-buying. I'd like to have people in my life rather than things.

I'd like to have help when I need it. I'd like to have people who are close enough that I feel I can call them when I need help. I'd like to have someone living with me, to keep me company and to help when I need it.

I'd like to have places to go and people to see. I'd like the photos I take to have people in them.

I'd like to have something non-pathetic to answer when someone asks what I do with my free time.



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20 Dec 2014, 1:41 am

I do wish I could find a nice guy to marry. Not at all interested in having children, myself, but I'd love to find a sweet guy to marry, who lets me pursue my interests, gives me my 'me time', not smothering, etc.

As was already pointed out, I too wish I had financial security. Living on welfare (waiting to apply for disability though) sux :(


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20 Dec 2014, 2:09 am

That's the reason I was going to kill myself, because I just wanted to be normal and was obsessed with it and I tried to be it then failed and then when I was weird I realized I didn't even fit in the weirdos like the people who are normal but feel weird
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20 Dec 2014, 3:52 am

I admit that before I moved schools, I did feel jealousy towards people who could socialise easily and were considered as part of the "norm" because I only ever wanted to be accepted by my peers. I also used to feel jealousy towards my mother's friend who, at the time, was much closer with her than I was, and I felt like that I could never achieve being close with my mother because I fought with her a lot and struggled to communicate with her. I felt envious towards people who could communicate with their family members well and were close to them.

I sometimes envy people who can communicate well and carry out independent tasks easily without becoming so confused and panicking, and not knowing what to do.



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20 Dec 2014, 5:25 am

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No because they live a lie.


I can't believe nobody's asked Adele what she means by this. Please explain!



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20 Dec 2014, 8:46 am

No, because the NT world that's up to the minute in everything about popular culture and social trends doesn't appeal to me.


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20 Dec 2014, 10:28 am

No because I can't stand normal people and the dishonest nature of this world. I can't think of nothing worse than fraternizing with such people, but that's why I am cynical and depressed, then again I'd probably be even more cynical and depressed if I forced myself to mingle like they do.



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20 Dec 2014, 10:42 am

I don't feel jealous, I just wish people would except me and not mock or make fun of me.


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20 Dec 2014, 10:42 am

Yeah, a lot.


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20 Dec 2014, 11:45 am

Yes I do but I don't think it's because of AS.


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20 Dec 2014, 12:36 pm

Klowglas wrote:
No because I can't stand normal people and the dishonest nature of this world. I can't think of nothing worse than fraternizing with such people, but that's why I am cynical and depressed, then again I'd probably be even more cynical and depressed if I forced myself to mingle like they do.


But do you think there are no NTs who are also disgusted by the dishonesty? Do you have to be AS to feel that way?



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20 Dec 2014, 1:41 pm

Butterfiend wrote:
I often feel sad because I see my friends living awesome, normal lives. They're off with awesome relationships and stuff and some of them are even getting married. I feel bad because this is what I want but it seems to be happening to everbody around me. This is the worst part about being Autistic. Do other people feel this way as well? :(


Well, for the most part, not-so-much, anymore----but, in my younger days, I wanted to be married, have kids, a house, and a decent car----a couple of friends wouldn't hurt..... Now, I would just like to have a decent job, so I wouldn't have to worry so much about bills; and, I can have all the time, after work, for myself / my special interests. Sometimes I've thought I'd like to have a friend, to do things with----but, then I think about how having a friend can be alot of "work", and then I'm "over it".



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20 Dec 2014, 2:36 pm

Yes and no, if that makes any sense at all.

I am envious of NTs because they can easily make friends for the most part and function well in social situations. I am not envious because they put out way too much energy beong fake just to make fake friends that aren't real friends unless it involves drinking or other such nonsense.

I tried and was always the outsider no matter what I did. So, I now say f it and be who I am. Interests and all. Real friends have more real things in common. My current friend, who is NT by the way is a true friend because she and I share our interests and trust each other. I would rather have her around than most of the fake people out there.


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20 Dec 2014, 5:44 pm

I feel jealous all the time.



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20 Dec 2014, 6:48 pm

By no means! On the contrary I was afraid to be sucked into the standard life, untill I was old enough to know, that I wouldn´t be.


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20 Dec 2014, 8:19 pm

wish I wasn't so scatterbrained so often. :oops: