B19 wrote:
Google "Invalidation" "Being invalidated" "How to deal with people who invalidate you" - there are some useful websites which deal with what you are experiencing.
I just did, and was overwhelmed with how many came up. Are there 1 or 2 good ones you could recommend, B19?
I have had assorted people invalidate me my whole life. Starting with my own mother..... I'd get anxious about something or other & she'd say 'stop worrying, you have nothing to worry about, you're going to give yourself an ulcer, etc'...
Currently it's my roommate, he keeps moving my stuff around and when I get upset he'll go 'gosh you're such a drama queen, waa waa waa, always complaining' then when I say 'I doubt you'd appreciate it if I moved your things around so you had to hunt all over the house for them' he acts like I've threatened to do it and says 'would you like me to pack up your stuff and move you out of here tonight?' (I know he wouldn't, but just having to hear him say it - albeit once - is stressful) ~ (I'm only on welfare and can't afford a place on my own, my ODSP application is taking forever, and I don't know anyone else I could live with.. )
I could go on......
Short story short, yeah I know a bit how invalidation feels.
I hope your situation improves somehow, OP. I agree with the others who've said they're saddened by your husband's not supporting you.
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Diagnosed "Asperger's to a moderate degree" April 7, 2015.
Aspie score 145 of 200
NT score 56 of 200
AQ score: 47
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