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I am a 51 year old man and only found out I have Aspergers within the last year. Society had very little toleration for people who were different and you were expected to conform. I started getting bullied in school starting in 4th grade, my teacher was the instigator a lot of the time. Daily physical and verbal harassment usually by more than one other kid. Getting slapped in the back of the head, kicked, tripped, knocking my books out of my hand, and laughed at by everyone when it happened were so routine that I mostly didn't react. Stuff like getting spit on, peed on in the shower or having someone speed by me in a car and come as close as they could to just missing hitting me, and actual fistfights were rarer. Most teachers would look the other way until I tried to defend myself then they would punish me. When I would try to fight back I would get ganged up on. It lasted all the way though high school. A couple times I complained to the school administration about different things and got blown off. Keep in mind this was around 1973-1982 and the world was a very different place. There was not really even any knowlege of AS at the time and pretty much no help available for people like me who were just odd. I was just a little boy when it started and had no clue why it was happening and sort of just figured that was the way things are. It sucked and affected a lot of my behavior in ways that I am still trying to figure out. Just reading here about all the people who had similiar experiences makes me feel less alone dealing with this. Thanks.

I've had similar things happen to me. I'm 54 years old.

Usually, the teachers blamed me.

Have you been bullied recently? If not, I would just chalk it up to childhood crap.

I was bullied for 13 years in school and got ganged up on numerous times. I had one kid try to strangle me a few times and even got tossed over a second floor railing. The same kid and his buddies kicked the life out of me twice that I know of. I wound up limping the whole school day after the second attack. Life was hell and the deep rooted mistrust of people in general has never gone away. I was abused physically, socially, and emotionally, just now I am getting over the damage it made.

I was bullied once in freshman year (12-13) at a high school in the Seattle area. There were two JV (now varsity of course) football players in my 5th period PE class and they were cruel a--hole jocks, African Americans by the way, who seemed to like to pick on me. They would cuss F-words and say s--t a lot to me when I didn't do the warm up exercises right, which made me very mad at them. They also "accidentally" knocked me to the ground during a soccer game, resulting in a nasty astro-turf burn on my leg that lasted about 4-6 days. Never hit or kicked them, but I came darn close to doing that. At the same time, my PE teacher was not really nice to the students - well, he required 9th graders to run a 5K by the end of the year. He coldly told me "just ignore them" a couple of times. Got all the way up to the assistant principal, but of course, This school absolutely CRAVES sports, so little or nothing was done to stop it. Thankfully I moved out of there to another school district 20 miles to the northeast by the start of 2013, so it was all over by then. But I still remember those idiots like it was a week ago. It's quite the school. Most of the population is jocks and preppy people, as I was in a rich city. I was living in a poor neighborhood in a rich city...did not really fit in that well to anyone. A few non-hang-out-friendly kids here and there and a couple of teachers were most if not all of the friends I had.

Have not been really bullied other than those moments in freshman year. The 2nd half of the year at the new school was the best times I had since probably 7th grade. Teachers and students were wonderful, knew I had AS/HFA, and treated me with lots of respect.

When I was in elementary someone would keep taking money from me everyday also there was a time in elementary when someone laughed at me and it made me cry

Most of the bullying has been about the way I look, the way I speak and where I'm from.
I don't mind slight teasing, especially if I'm doing it back with a friend and we're just joking around but a lot of the time when I was younger I never really understood it, and I used to get really upset.

I have experienced bullying at work because of my situation. At school, I mostly fought back, so after a year or so, I barely had any issues.

The aggression of bullying is due to a self-perpetuating collection of mind viruses.

In order to escape the pressure, the victims often have to either become physically capable and willing to start hurting people themselves. Thus the viruses are replicated and the cycle continues.

That's why these aggressive algorithms are still around today infecting minds. It's not an accident or just another unfortunate situation created by chance, or some "bad apples".

It is systemic.

Bullying and abuse has been a big part of my life.when I was in school I was severely bullied by my peers because I was very quiet and they thought I was weird so I was constantly called names like spastic,retard and weirdo,they use to make fun at how I used my hands to talk and also how I couldn't look people in the eye,I have always loved drawing and I use to draw all the time at school and the kids noticed that i was deeply passionate and involved in it that they use to make fun of my drawings and said they were childish, but one of the worst things to happen to me at school was when one time in class when my teacher left to do something that the entire class started to pick on me,they took my backpack and hid it from me and everyone was yelling at me and calling me names I remember turning my back at them and started crying and then a girl came up to me at the front and yelled out "are you crying (Adora?) and the whole class started laughing at me,I couldn't handle the laughing so I ended up running out of the class room and out of the building and could hear them cheering that I ran out,i eventually end up leaving high school at a very young age because of this but sadly the abuse wasn't just at school and i wish I could write all of what happened to me in this reply but it would take too long and sadly I experienced a lot worse than just schoolyard bullying.

I was bullied and outed from day one - even by the adults. At first it seemed to be caused by their contempt because of my weight issue, but later the problem turned out to be, that I was "weird"! Who wouldn´t be?
The bullying took place on a scale from the primitive beating and naming over mass "rapes", where their hands were all over me, pinching my skin, my clothes pulled down, my body commented etc. to different forms of gaslighting.
I was very naive, so the "sport" was to get me to make a faux pas and then tell it to everyone.

It took me about ten years, before I could even pass a school yard without feeling revengeful, and many years after I felt and acted like a door mat. My early adult life was simply ruined.
I don´t think much about it today, but I stiffen up and recognize that sense of fear and humiliation from time to time, when I hear someone express demands and lecture others. I know where that comes from.
Bullying takes down the victims self esteem, so they may never grow to believe in themselves for real.

It was nice getting it out, even though I shiver and feel cold as I write this.

Yes...I identify with you totally.

I had a weight issue as a child--as well as a "glasses-braces" issue.

I was threatened with getting my butt kicked "after school" on a regular basis.

I was once held down and forced to see about 6-7 other boys' "Johnsons."

At age 18, I did a stupid thing: I went to a gay person's house, out of loneliness (I didn't know he was gay). He proceeded to "dry hump" me while holding me down. I sorta feel like I'm lucky to be alive.

Yakk!
Being gullable is dangerous. I have done some stupid things too, but I was lucky.