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30 Jan 2015, 7:00 pm

A pattern may have been seen in my previous posts of disparaging love and partnership. This comes from jading experiences.
However, there was a guy who I had/have strong feelings for. I totally blew the relationship because I was too intense. And I haven't heard from him in over a year. He was/is someone I think I could form a mutually beneficial partnership with.
Well, he messaged me yesterday (even after I had unfriended him on FB.)
He didn't say much, the message was the contact itself. We exchanged a couple of texts and then nothing again.
I, of course, said too much, but am successfully resisting the urge to text him a novel in 5 parts. I hate that he can make me feel this dreadful hopefulness again.
What should I make of his contacting me after so long a time?



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30 Jan 2015, 7:17 pm

My approach, after such a long time of no-contact from him, would be to tell him to f*** off.

People who do this only do it out of curiosity (unless he's begging you and has actually changed), not because he's that interested. So I tell them to f*** off and never contact me again.

But then, I'm someone who would rather be alone than messed about.



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30 Jan 2015, 7:30 pm

He could be interested, but I suspect smudge is correct. Whatever you do, don't give away too much to this guy until you know what his intentions are.


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30 Jan 2015, 7:37 pm

Ask him why he didn't contact you for so long.



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30 Jan 2015, 7:37 pm

Yes. I have no idea of his motives. His message was an apology for lack of contact and I wondered if he is depressed and making amends. I hope this is not the case.

(BTW, this is not the married guy. I haven't heard from him and am now aware that he was using me.)

I just really like this guy.



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30 Jan 2015, 7:38 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Ask him why he didn't contact you for so long.


I can't email him again. I'm already 2-1.



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30 Jan 2015, 8:36 pm

Does "2-1" mean that it's his turn to respond?



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30 Jan 2015, 9:06 pm

I don't know.



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30 Jan 2015, 9:10 pm

What does 2-1 mean then?



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30 Jan 2015, 9:21 pm

That's what it means. I just hate that my equilibrium has been disrupted.