Things NTs do that appear rude

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Sheesh. And that's why I will never work in a retail or fast food environment. Too much stress, too much "fake greetings", too much of a waste of my time. Yes I know, most teenagers start in retail/fast food. But most of the teenagers are NTs who are good with being social.
Ironically, the field I want to go into for a job later in life involves lots of talking and stress...but it's not fast food or retail. It's teaching. I volunteered last year for a local elementary school, and within a few weeks I loved it and the kids knew me by name. And retail/fast food does NOTHING to your real resume for the education field.
But under NO circumstances will I end up being cashier or assistant in a grocery/department store. Sorry you had to go through that stress. Ugh.

Telling me about things a the last minute. If you want me to do something, give me time to think about it, otherwise the answer will almost certainly be a "no".

Yer mum

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Unapologetically, Norny.
-chronically drunk

When I was a teenager I had the other girls completely treating me the way they wouldn't want to be treated.
They never shared any sweets with me, but expected me to share mine by asking me "nicely". They always made rude remarks at me what hurt my feelings. I was never rude or nasty to them. Then one day I decided to give them a taste of their own medicine. When one of them opened up a lunch-box revealing a salad what she had made in cookery class, I expressed that I didn't like salad, by looking at it and going, "eww!" The girl then looked very hurt and said, "thanks for saying that, Jo! It took me and hour to make this!" And she turned away from me, and the others glared at me. I suppose none of them actually realised that was how they've been making me feel all these years of High School. Then when I decide to say something unpleasant what I imagined they would say to me, I just got hated even more.

When people insist on giving me something I said I don't want. Like when I buy something, and I say I don't want it in a bag, but they say "are you sure?" and they put it in a bag anyway.

I think knowing when to interrupt, knowing how to, and when, are finer social skills than a lot of Autistic people can summon. I am right there on the borderline of Asperger's/NT and I struggle daily, consciously with this in many dialogues and try and take my time to respond. When in doubt, I try to shut up and wait. Knowing when/how to interrupt even when the conversation sounds like dwindling, petty "Blah, blah, blah, blah " to us is not always easy or possible.

My top five list...

1. Whistling! NT's that really believe they have some sort of musical tallent should take up a real instrument.
2. Asking B.S. questions like, "are you working hard or hardly working".
3. Belittling persons like myself who cannot eat certain foods like vegetables with crap like,"oh, you're on borrowed time".
4. Suggesting I can't be a man because I'm scared of things like operating power tools or driving a manual car with a clutch, et cetera.
5. Thinking they're "born salespersons", meaning they can get anyone to buy anything if they stay persistant.

Commenting about someone's looks.
It is rude.
The other day a bartender asked my dad if he made me cut my hair.
What does that even mean?? And how can you ask a stranger something like that about his child? Or me, if I was talking to him. Why do strangers make random personal questions??

I don't get it. It makes me cringe.

not responding to a phone, text, or email message.

Everyone is guilty of that, and many of the offenses cited so far.