Made the mistake of reading the parent's forum

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Howdy. I'm not going to read most of the threads here or comment on them. I'm looking for other parents who are very happy with their autistic children and who aren't looking to fix them or medicate them. Please do not respond here with labourious comments about why you want to be or should be all the things I'm trying to avoid. I'm autistic, and I find it upsetting to read comments about how difficult we are and how we need medication, etc. I'm also in Australia, and we don't seem to medicalise autism nearly as much as the USA does.

So, that said! We are 46 and 12, respectively, and have a cat who is 4. We live an hour outside of Melbourne. I am a single parent, a 'radical unschooler' and generally an oddball. Our family works based on mutual respect and mutual aid, and I am teaching my child how to be independent in a sort of different way to most. We both have issues we are overcoming and/or learning how to function with due to our autism, and we are fashioning a life of joy and happiness despite the NT world.

Are there other parents out there who are like me? I may well avoid this forum section altogether as I find a lot of the posts exceptionally sad. I get angry when I'm sad and don't want to alienate people who are struggling to parent by becoming angry with them. I think parenting is the hardest job ever, but I think that is the case whether or not you're parenting a child with ASD.

That's always a great way to get people to respond to you. Insult them, tell them why you don't consider them to be good enough and then sit back and wait for those who you deem sufficiently moral enough to respond.

Most of these parents are happy with their children, wanting them to sleep through the night or use the bathroom or focus on homework isn't wishing to change them.

If you do get a response it will probably be from someone who decided to look past your smarmy post and give you the benefit of the doubt that you aren't just going to be a douche to everybody.

Learning a little bit of manners wouldn't hurt you you know, nor would it mean that you weren't being "true to yourself". I'm all for being mean to somebody when you have a reason to do so, but from reading your past posts it seems that being mean and rude and condescending is simply your special interest.

You really should get the chip off your shoulder if you ever expect to get anywhere. Maybe one of the other parents will take pity on you and try to explain it better than I did. Then again, I'm only an aspie not the parent of one (I suspect it about one of mine but I'm not sure and it doesn't matter anyway cause he's not interested in knowing either way)

While it may be true that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar but you catch the most with dog crap, that doesn't translate into everyday actions.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

To the OP. Just do your own thing. As long as you love your children and treat them well, you are fine.

Avoid this forum if it makes you angry.

Well there's my thread trying to meet like-minded parents gone to $5ht before it started. Thanks for making it about you. If anyone is interested in parenting discussions like I mentioned please PM me.

Thanks to the members contacting me by PM. I knew others were out there who feel like I do, and it helps to feel less alone here. xx I know of one great (secret) group on FB that is useful, but I am no longer there. I'm glad some understand where I am coming from.

If you read more of the Parents Forum, your impression will change. Many here have a good,objective view of autism. Don't judge based on "first impressions."

OliveOilMum, you've been reported quite a few times today. Please, tone it down a bit and/or better not post if under a stress or having some issues.

TBH, I read it the same way OOM did but I just didn't see it the exact same way she did when she translated the OP post she read it as. It came off to me as it's wrong to put ASD children on medication and it's so wrong to try and help them and fix their issues they have to make their lives easier. What kind of parent wouldn't try and help their child who is struggling? Would a parent of a child with CP not help them or a parent of a child with a language delay, etc.

What if my own mom didn't help me. I would still be a concrete thinker and be very confused and not be able to see different perspectives and the overall picture and may still be struggling with words because I wouldn't know how to do pictures from them. Who knows what my life would have been like today if my mom had just left me alone. I may have still had more sensory issues and still be clumsy, etc. I may have not been able to keep a job either due to being so concrete because who would have the time to explain everything to me about a incident or something at work because I would be in the moment person and the boss wouldn't have time to go over my day with me and draw pictures so it would be easier to just lay me off due to the inability to take notice. I may have still had more social issues. Plus I may have still been very impulsive and not have any memory of doing things I am not aware of. No parent would want their kid to struggle and grow up to not live a normal life.

I was posting to find people like me. The way I parent is going to be offensive and upsetting to some other parents, just the way other parents might offend me as a parent. Me sharing what I do and what upsets me is not attacking other parents, it is meant to make it clear how I parent because I am seeking other parents who share my views for support.

My post spoke to two parents who said they feel similar to me, and that is what I was looking for. I just wish they weren't made afraid to share what they really think on a forum because we'll be jumped on and chastised for it. I think it would be a kinder place here if everyone gave people the benefit of the doubt and asked for clarity. I sincerely don't want to offend anybody, and made that clear with this: