will@rd wrote:
PMs are almost like sudden, unexpected social encounters. One moment, I'm in my own head, chillin,' and the next, there's somebody right in my face, expecting me to be cheery and conversational on demand. IDK WTF to say, leave me alone.
Yes that's exactly how it makes me feel.
I know a lot of people say they like talking online, because it's indirect and they can take their time responding to things. But to me it feels almost as if the person is literally standing right there waiting for a response.
Actually in a way, it's worse than in person. Most of the time if I am interacting with someone face-to-face, there's a reason and I'm somewhat prepared for it. But if I get a message online, it's usually very unexpected and I have no idea what it will be about.