Why is sex taboo?

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My dad has this freak out issue with me. I'm an adult nearly 29 but watching Dragon Tattoo NO! 50 Shades of Grey NO! Even Orange is the new Black sex stuff NO Even Dexter show sex stuff NO!

I'm an adult and SO IS HE! COME ON!! !! Dexter STABS PEOPLE TO DEATH! What's the issue with sex? It's a normal part of the human body! HELL! The show BONES is fine that's ICK! But NOPE Only "ick" to him is sex. We are both rational adults not sicko types. But sex is sex it's a normal part of the human body why OMG! Don't watch with adult daughter SHEESH!

I'm just a prudish American, but I can relate to your dad's discomfort. It just feels taboo to watch anything sexually explicit with your children. You may be an adult, but you will always be his "child" even if you're an adult. I think it's been engrained to shield our kids from explicit material, and it lingers into adulthood. It doesn't reflect on recognizing you as an adult, if that helps.

Sex scenes are uncomfortable for me, but it's because of boredom rather than shame, prudishness, etc. Showing characters in a movie having sex is like showing characters going to the bathroom or taking a shower. It's boring and it adds nothing. If the sex act is important to the story, then I'd rather just cut to the aftermath. I've never seen a sex scene in a movie that wasn't a chore to get through.

Because both the feminazis and religious extremists made it so.

It's always bothered how uncomfortable I am about watching sex scenes with my parents. You could have a man with a chain saw whacking off thousands of people and I'm chill but you pull out one boob and I suddenly have to use restroom. Or check if I left the oven on. I'm wondering if it's the same for people non-americans?

I'm not sure that's entirely true, Tim, at least its not the whole story. If you'll notice, movies released during the 1970s featured nudity and fairly explicit sex scenes pretty regularly. Sometime during the 80s, it seems the motion picture industry made a conscious decision to aim films at a younger audience and when they did, dropped much of the graphic sexual stuff, and switched to violence instead. When sex was shown at all, (with the exception of the gratuitous boob shots in juvenile comedy) it was immediately punished by violent death, in the person of Michael Myers, Jason, or Freddy Krueger. Apparently explosions and Rambo bloodbaths put more people in the seats. There was some pressure from Feminist groups, but Hollywood hasn't listened to the religious right since the 1950s. There was a marketing decision being made. Media shapes the culture these days, not the other way round.

Wow, that's warped.

I never understood why sex is such a taboo. After all if we are all here today it's because of sex, every 7 billions person in the world is here today about sex. Sex is a natural think, almost everyone does it, and not just for reproduction but because it feels good, and it's part of our own human.
As for watching sex in movies or TV shows, I've never had a problem with that, and being a filmmaker myself I often have sex in my films (simulated of course, I don't make porn). Even when I was younger with my parents, sex in movies was never a big deal, I was 12 or 13 when I saw Basic Instinct with my mom, The Expert (a film with Stallone that contains a strong sex scene) I saw in the cinema with my dad and it wasn't an issue. I even remember when I was 16, Last Tango in Paris was playing on TV (here movies are not censored on TV) and my dad who knew about the film told me "I'm going to bed, enjoy the film". And I was 19 when I watched with my grandmother "In the realm of the senses" a Japanese film with non simulated sex in it, and it was no big deal either.
Only time it was an issue was when I was around 8, when watching "The Big Blue" and my mom covert my eyes.
Anyway, the question is, do you prefer having a child watching a Fast and Furious type of film with 100's of people getting killed bloodlest or have him watching two people having sex?
And when I look back I've seen tons of films with sex and they never influence me, so haven't violent films.

Sex, to me, is no big deal, but it also is mostly non-emotional. I've had sex with lots of people, but I've only ever been romantic with my current, long-term, monogamous partner. Before him, sex was just physical. My parents are pretty prudish, my dad was uncomfortable even taking his shirt off in front of us kids. I never saw them being affectionate with each other, and I think that damaged me more than seeing ether of them naked would have, because without an example, it was hard for me to learn how much affection was appropriate in public. If I watch anything with my parents that has sex or nudity, they get uncomfortable but I don't. I'm an adult, but they still squirm during sex scenes. I think I (and most people, NT or Aspie,) would have been much healthier if they were honest and open about sex and the human body. I had to learn everything from porn, not a good source of correct information! Personally, I would have been fine, better off, if my parents had been nudists and more open about sex.
Now violence, that is what really bothers me. I've always been sensitive to it, and I was in my 20's before I could enjoy any type of horror movie (I still basically don't like them). It strikes me as totally twisted that in America, regular TV can show very graphic violence in movie trailers and shows (the trailer for Hostile showed graphic torture on REGULAR TELEVISION THAT ANY KID CAN SEE. How is that ok?!?), but a naked or partly naked human body in a non-sexual scenario is completely taboo and disgusting. How are kids supposed to develop a healthy body image from that?! I'm not saying everyone should walk around totally naked, but I am saying that seeing a little skin is not going to traumatize anyone, whereas graphic violence might. How is a guy's naked butt or a woman's boob going to burn someone's eyes out of their head?

Sex is probably the most non-taboo thing in the Western World, it's literally everywhere.

lol my mother didn't give a f*** when I was playing the witcher 2 and there were sex scenes, planning to get the 3rd game when its released

Yes, it is everywhere, but it's still taboo. America has a strange relationship with sex; the country has both an addiction and an aversion to sex. In my opinion, the fact that it is unnecessarily taboo is the reason why it is so pervasive. If the human body was a common sight and sex was well understood to be a part of life and no big deal, it wouldn't have the mystique and romanticized appeal of being 'wrong' that it does now and people could mentally get over it.
It's like countries that don't have a legal drinking age, and children as young as 10 occasionally have a glass of wine; these countries have some of the lowest alcoholic rates and alcohol-related deaths in the world because drinking is no bug deal to them, kids have nothing to be curious about. America's legal drinking age of 21 is relatively high and we have thousands of alcohol-related deaths every year and hundreds of thousands of struggling alcoholics. Alcohol is the most dangerous substance-abuse problem in the country when the example of other countries shows us that it doesn't have to be. Making something 'wrong' just makes it more fun to do and sex is no different.

Yeah I see what you mean. I consider myself asexual so I ironically tend to notice sexual things where others don't. America is extremely immature about sex.

My parents would probably be shocked if they knew I even sometimes watch longplays of video games full of sex and graphic violence, although I rarely if ever think of buying or playing them myself. All the games I own are rated E or T. But that's mainly because they know I have a tendency to get really upset or emotional by certain things. Other things though, I can handle and I even think it's weird that I do.

I find sex scenes in Hollywood "adult" movies very unrealistic. It's nearly always like a pair of animals mating in the wild (or more so) instead of an act of sweet, mutual love.