squatterandtheant wrote:
It would nice not to look like a crack addict (No offence to crack addicts but I am not one) all the time: low facial muscle tone, large eyes with fixed stare, occasional pupil dialation and pale skin. I find people dont take me seriously, not helped by my not-so-good asperger social skills. As a result my self esteem plummets and stops me from moving forward and getting the most out of life. Do other people suffer this or simular? What can i do to improve my appearance issues as described above? Any help would be gratefully appreciated!
Actually, this is a possible look AS people may have but not all do. If you can control the muscles, you CAN build tone. The lack of tone may be simply due to a lack of expression and speech. squatterandtheant's idea about singing may be good. The school I went to when I was younger required that. Who knows, maybe it helped me there. I remember I wasn't really into it, and didn't talk much. You can't have a fixed stare ALL THE TIME, can you? Again, I tend to have a "one track mind", so I may be preoccupied with one thing. So the pupil dilation is only occasional? That makes more sense. I have a picture of me at 5, and my pupils were LARGE. That never made sense, due to light levels. If the dilation was only occasional, it would make more sense. Anyway, THAT, and some of the other stuff can be helped by wearing darker glasses.
My next suggestion is one even I don't take, but.... You can try walking around the block, or simply getting out more. Still, this brings back a funny memory! Once, I noticed that my left arm was noticably darker than my right. It was STILL far from tanned, but it WAS darker! Any guess as to why? Well, when it was summer, I opened the window to get some wind. I rested my LEFT arm on the window sill. Even the brief(like 6 hours a week) exposure gave me a darker complexion there!
BTW Try developing OTHER reasons for self esteem. If I based that 100% on what other people thought, I would LITERALLY be DEAD!
Steve