Diary of a non diagnosed 37 yr old man getting diagnosed

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Armeria
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17 Jul 2015, 7:02 am

Hi Christian, i also posted a similar thing to this recently (but am a woman). I also live in essex, am 37 and I also went through (am still going through) the Jessie Tait designs (midwinter) obsession so I thought I'd reach out to you and say hi, and that, although i know you are looking for male perspectives, that you are not alone.

I was advised by a lovely person on this forum to read up on aspergers and think back to your childhood, writing down all the 'evidence' so you are prepared to explain to the doc. I am making a note now whenever something comes to memory and will present this notebook, in full glory in my terrible handwriting.
I hope your doc is clued up enough to try and find a specialist with autism in adults. I am hoping the same for myself. There is an essex based charity who can help, diagnosed or not: Autism anglia: http://www.autism-anglia.org.uk/

They spoke to me and i haven't even got my referral yet! Very nice understanding people, they will put your name down for a call from someone who can help with ..whatever you need help with, I presume. For me it's noise sensitivity and a heap of other things.
I wish you all the best, and good luck getting somewhere with the referral!



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26 Nov 2015, 12:47 pm

So now my daughter has been diagnosed with low functioning autism and finds life very tough, it's tough being around her too, today we are watching minions for the 16th time. She's a lovely child and has lots of positives as well, I love the way she doesn't conform.

Today my son got diagnosed with high functioning autism (aspergers), he's only 9 but I think he's quite happy about it as he always felt like a young nutty professor, it explains a lot, his first word was garden and he has always been top of the class at maths and English. I'm so happy for him in a way as I never had a diagnosis, if I did. It would of helped me I think.


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26 Nov 2015, 1:09 pm

Well here now comes the s**t bit.

Last week I had my most serious crash, 3 days off sick lying in bed thinking of ways I could kill myself. It was really horrible , to be honest absolutely f*****g dreadful. So come the Thursday I'm put into a position where I go back to work or f**k it all off, I chose the former, I have a family so have a strong sense of the rules I suppose (support the family). During these 3 days I went to the docs and said I was on the edge of driving myself into a wall at 80mph (that would've done it) I said I wanted tablets for anxiety though as I felt exhausted from constantly worrying bad things will happen, what do people think of me. I wish I could just have a quiet mind, I would be so f*****g happy to just stop thinking. Anyway I got some low dosage anxiety tabs and have started taking those . Going back to work has helped, as I haven't had time to think, sometimes I wish I was on my own, I could then just become an alcoholic. Life would be simpler then.
Well there's my story so far ups and downs really. I even painted at the Tate Modern as part of a group thing, but hated what I done. Stupid isn't it, people would proberly sell their left testicle to do some thing like that . Anyway hopefully I'll get an appointment soon for this autism test. If I have another crash I'll go to the mental health unit, I'm sick of feeling like s**t every now and then, I'm constantly fighting with myself, I love being different, but society makes me feel like shut for not fitting in, bastards! I f*****g hate society


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ChristianSmith
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26 Nov 2015, 1:12 pm

Armeria wrote:
Hi Christian, i also posted a similar thing to this recently (but am a woman). I also live in essex, am 37 and I also went through (am still going through) the Jessie Tait designs (midwinter) obsession so I thought I'd reach out to you and say hi, and that, although i know you are looking for male perspectives, that you are not alone.


I was advised by a lovely person on this forum to read up on aspergers and think back to your childhood, writing down all the 'evidence' so you are prepared to explain to the doc. I am making a note now whenever something comes to memory and will present this notebook, in full glory in my terrible handwriting.
I hope your doc is clued up enough to try and find a specialist with autism in adults. I am hoping the same for myself. There is an essex based charity who can help, diagnosed or not: Autism anglia: http://www.autism-anglia.org.uk/

They spoke to me and i haven't even got my referral yet! Very nice understanding people, they will put your name down for a call from someone who can help with ..whatever you need help with, I presume. For me it's noise sensitivity and a heap of other things.
I wish you all the best, and good luck getting somewhere with the referral!
. I really appreciate the advice and it's good to know there's other people in Essex like me. Speak soon, bit tipsy right now. Ttfn


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ChristianSmith
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16 Mar 2016, 4:59 pm

So I've now been on Citalopram for a good few months now and have been exercising every day for now 2 months and do feel great, I can't believe how good this hard exercise is, stopped drinking and started eating healthily. But I still feel damned awkward every time I mix with people, I hate society for that. Why must we be made to feel that we must have friends?


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17 Mar 2016, 4:54 am

Start by joining an aspie group, If you can find one. At least you might meet people, who know, what it is about.


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ChristianSmith
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28 Mar 2016, 4:35 pm

Jensen wrote:
Start by joining an aspie group, If you can find one. At least you might meet people, who know, what it is about.


I'm ok for now and socialised a hell of a lot this weekend. Felt awkward, but I'm slowly getting used to it


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ChristianSmith
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13 Mar 2017, 1:20 pm

Well it's been a year and a half wait, but finally I have an assessment this Thursday.

I've managed to deal with being made redundant and getting a new job the same day, I even managed to get another new job as I wasn't happy at the other one, just didn't feel comfortable with the atmosphere.

Started at a new place a few days back and feel much better, as it's like my old job I got made redundant from. Ah comfy!

Well I'll let you all know how I get on, looking forward to having this label as it will be closure for a number of things that plague my mind still from the things that happened to me as young as 7


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13 Mar 2017, 3:16 pm

Good luck for Thursday!

I am also 37, in the UK and diagnosed 6 months ago.



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13 Mar 2017, 3:20 pm

Congratulations on the new job. I hope the job and the assessment prove to be good for you.


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ChristianSmith
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13 Mar 2017, 4:37 pm

Thank you people


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ChristianSmith
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16 Mar 2017, 12:00 pm

Well after 5 hours of talking I'm exhausted but with a diagnosis of Autism.
Apparently I mask it well.

So onwards and upwards.


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16 Mar 2017, 2:46 pm

ChristianSmith wrote:
Well after 5 hours of talking I'm exhausted but with a diagnosis of Autism.
Apparently I mask it well.

So onwards and upwards.

Sounds like a long journey. I started mine on Monday.


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ChristianSmith
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16 Mar 2017, 5:58 pm

Dave_T wrote:
ChristianSmith wrote:
Well after 5 hours of talking I'm exhausted but with a diagnosis of Autism.
Apparently I mask it well.

So onwards and upwards.

Sounds like a long journey. I started mine on Monday.

Good luck, it's helped me just find closure and to stop constantly questioning why I don't fit


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