I've never won a trophy what should I do?

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My name is Will I'm 17 years old and I have aspergers syndrome, I have this issue of not winning anything all I ever won was a small perfect attendence trophy in the 4th grade, a small 3rd place trophy back when I use to do pinewood derby, and a 3rd place science club trophy I won in the 6th grade, other than that I have never won anything big, people around me have all won something big, my little brothers all won 1st place trophies and one got a certificate signed by THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES HIMSELF for having straight A's all year I on the other hand struggle in math and science I have a B and a C respectiivly, I've tried to get a youtube play button award they issue to people who get 100'000 subscribers but nobody watches my videos and no body subscribes to me witch is BS because did youtube for 2 years and nobody will subscribe to me, does this mean my parents pay more attention to my brothers, NO, they just never been i my stuation before so they don't know how to help me, I just feel sad because I never properly won a single thing in my life and I need advice so that would mean so much if I could have some help

you've won more than i have. i fell okay about that. i don't compare myself to others. everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

I won a perfect attendance award in school. Don't diminish that accomplishment it is very difficult to do.

The only trophy that I've ever won was for 1st place in the Idaho state science fair. and that was the only trophy I've ever won in my entire life. Sadly though, I don't have it anymore. BTW: I've never won any small ones ether.

I've never won anything either.

Many years ago when I turned 40, I had honestly felt so beaten up by life (didn't yet even know that I was on the spectrum, just knew everything had been a battle) that I bought myself a little silver charm trophy.

It's just tiny, meant to be worn on a bracelet but I don't wear it, I just keep it on a shelf. It was my trophy to myself for just making it through 40 years and still be alive.

It's not the same as actually winning something for something, but it meant something to me to acknowledge I'd gotten through a lot of things that were hard enough that I felt like I'd won a situation just by getting through the experience and often alone and without help -- both parents dying, a very sad divorce, international migrations, living alone for the first time, getting my drivers licence late in life, etc.

Imo, trophies are highly overrated. It is nice to win some, but all to often, someones self-esteem or view of someone is affected by the amount of trophies.

I myself have 1 real trophy (2nd place in a kids judo tournament), 2 "top 10%" certificates for science fairs and a row of "thanks for participating" crosses, but those don't count as all participants got them.

Really, don't stress it, if you are ever 4th place at 5 things, you are a lot more valuable as someone who is 1st at one, but 10th-lower at 4 others.

Neither did I. What's the big deal?

The only thing I even won was a Harry Potter knowledge contest in middle school - Harry Potter was my special interest back then so I got 100% correct answers. And I got some "math contest participation" awards but everyone who attended the contest got it too so it was nothing important. Oh, and in 2nd class of elementary school I got a badge "I can read really well", that was quite nice.

Don't compare yourself to others. Just do what you feel like doing. If you get an award - good, if you don't - who cares, you did it for yourself, not for others. Trophies are overrated anyway. Imagine you have to go in front of the whole school to get your reward. Not so much of a fun, right?

I didn't won any trophies as well in my 27.

They really matter nothing - trophies are invented by people to motivate others doing something useful for those who will give an award.

The same is with war medals - cheap way to let soldiers lose their lives for political interests, for the piece of metal on ribbon. Of course it's much more complex but this is very important function of all medals, trophies, prizes - to force peope into competition on behalf of organizer.

So don't worry if you wasn't so useful for others, they won't care anyway. More important is that YOU learned something new, got skills, knowledge, or even just had great time. You shouldn't consider yourself by some trophies, use your own opinion and not others'.

As said above - make your own trophy

Make your own. People aren’t going to inquire into detail regarding what you won at school. Although I strongly believe that trophies are overrated, it would still go a long way in convincing people that you have what it takes. I do understand exactly how you feel because I’ve been there done that. I got myself a chunk of trophies from Hoult Hellewell in Toronto. Just having it around made me feel good about myself. I hope you try the same thing.