Torn between staying single/getting married

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13 May 2015, 3:53 am

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Now it's picnic season: No excuses, Sly!

never been on a picnic. seems challenging.
not to mention there's no women take out if that was what you implying.

all that is left is to accept my fate.



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13 May 2015, 7:03 am

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If you meet the right person, you won't be asking yourself these questions anymore. One is willing to make personal sacrifices for the people one truly loves, whether a spouse or children.

That's probably the single best indicator of true love. After dating girl after girl who made it clear they were not planning on changing a thing, I have made plans to move 1km from my Girlfriends place. Its a far longer commute for work but it's a necessary step to build a life together.

I would have NEVER considered doing something like that until I met her.



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15 May 2015, 8:40 pm

I am hoping that I did find the right girl with the ones that I have found as of late. :)


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17 May 2015, 6:55 am

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While I am mostly at peace with being single @ 28, part of me feels torn about whether I should have a girl in my life and (possibly and eventually) get married or stay the way I am for the rest of my life and not get married.

It's a struggle, you guys. Both sides have their pros and cons (pros of staying single: More money for me, more freedom...., pros of getting married: Possibly starting a family; cons of staying single: Confined to a lifetime of eternal loneliness, cons of getting married: Money strains, sensory struggles with having kids, et al)........ what am I to do? *sigh*


Do not assume that getting married means you have to have children. However, you should communicate to a potential partner up front if you are unsure about having children.



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11 Jul 2015, 8:42 pm

^ I see. Any other serious advice?


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11 Jul 2015, 8:52 pm

I don't think you can truly be torn between staying single and getting married, it's easy to say for anyone that they'll never get married when they're still single. It's even easier for someone to say they don't want love when they're single, but the right person can come along and you'll instantly throw that mentality out the window. I mean, you've said yourself "
I am hoping that I did find the right girl with the ones that I have found as of late." so you know you truly do want someone, and if you find someone that works for you, who knows what'll happen? Just relax and enjoy the experience.. time will tell what happens, you don't need to get married or have kids right away. And you don't even need to set a timetable on those things.


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16 Jul 2015, 4:33 pm

^ I guess you're right. Eh, I'm not worried, even though I may be bipolar on this, I think that it will happen for me, sooner or later.


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18 Jul 2015, 6:41 pm

I thought I'd contuinue posting on this thread instead of posting a new one. Yeah, I am bipolar about staying single and getting married; the main reason why I am in the former is many factors in my life that somewhat beyond my power. But even so, I remain hopeful that some change will come my way and that the woman of my dreams will come. :)


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