The influence of popular ppl in high school and attractivess

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While ideally looks shouldn't be important and such a superficiality is something we have to work on "achieving over" they do have an impact and it's not like you have to be a social scientist to understand why.

It effected who I choose for companionship when I was younger. For example around the time I hit puberty,even when ppl opened up to me I sometimes would "shut them off".Why?.Because I wanted attention.When I was little being unappreciated was the same thing like not being recognized and I recognized very quickly how accommadating things were for ppl who get attention;who are popular even if they are rude and have bad attitudes.

Not to mention the circle of companionship around such ppl.Companionship that means something.Signifies something.Even if it,in and of itself isn't good.It's something that makes you feel desired with a place set out for you.

In a twisted way,I saw how that attracts attention and all of a sudden you become important.You can then be as over the top as you want and you'll finally get some ears actually attentive to you since your consequences set about by your actions actually mean something to ppl who'd you like to gain attention from.

Attractive,important,influential,"social circle/crowd/'rank marked'" kids who will make your doings resonate with others not ugly,unrecognized,wallflower kids.Even though now I know it's partly b/c of the lifestyle that said kids and other ppl become popular, I once thought that if I were in such a position my "deep" thoughts would be heard by and discussed with way more ppl.

It's why I always tried to "tag along" and make friends with kids with well-known/popular kids and why I was a jacka--- enuff to sometimes reject the invites of other ppl.This stupid custom stopped months before I hit 16 but I still saw a grain of verity in this s--- well throughout the rest of high school.
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A "good riddance" is my gut feeling to how such petty dynamics (at least for me) have ceded since I've arrived in community college,but I'm kind of curious as to whether there are things anyone here saw in regards to how popularity (which imo is in factor fueled by looks even in a non-sexual way^1) actually manifests itself in high school and not like the flimsy stereotyping which say movies use to fuel a narrative.

^1 I'm sorry to use examples but regardless of orientation I have a feeling that when it comes to leadership there could someone who vaguely looks like Mike Channing Tatum and another person who vaguely looks like Nicolas Cage given saying exact things with details about team leadership and I have a feeling it's more likely ppl will organize themselves around the former more likely then the latter

I knew a couple of girls in school I wouldn't call attractive but their families had money and they were cheerleaders. All the faculty treated them like pets as well. When the faculty caters to certain students, they set the mood because they are authority figures. Other students start behaving like that, too, when they see the faculty being very positive toward a student. They start revering whomever they see the faculty revering.

On the reverse side, being loathed by the faculty can set someone up to be thoroughly hated by the student body, too, and their life can be a living hell. These are usually the ones who drop out.