Here's some advice to get better at socializing, and surviving in mainstream society. Everybody is socially conditioned from a young age by different sources, like family, peers, school, TV, government etc..most of these do not really have your best interests in mind, or they are misguided themselves. Social norms which are agreed upon by the majority consensus determine what behaviors are considered 'normal' or 'acceptable' or not. They only thing that makes something 'awkward' or 'wierd' is because that's just what the majority happened to agree with at that particular place. In other societies like Asian societies, people with mental disorders have reported that people there are kinder and more respectful than people in the U.S..That's because they weren't conditioned to think that acting like a bunch of ret*d jackasses is considered 'cool'..
I could've been labeled with a handful of mental disorders at one point, but I never identified with them and turned out all the better for it. I was very socially awkward and times, and was so afraid to talk to girls that the thought of going up to them would start to make me physically nauseous. After going out and approaching hundreds of girls, by myself among doing other things, I was finally able to get over it. I'm here to say that you can say damn near anything and it'll work or not be considered wierd if you believe in it enough. Whoever has the strongest reality wins, as that old saying goes.
If you are very shy, you can start by just making eye contact with people, and then asking things like the time or for directions, then start having a bit longer conversations from there. If you're a guy, I'd recommend starting to work out, more like an MMA fighter. Turn your body into a formidable tool and weapon of survival. It will give you that much more confidence. Nextly stop taking s**t from people who try to bully you, If they start it, you have the right to do whatever it takes to put that aggressive act down, any amount of force that is necessary..point, blank, period. Do not let them just get away with that s**t, it's time to start bloodying their noses..they are hopelessly conditioned by a system that they are blind to, but that does not mean that there actions should not have consequences..
Pop culture, and the media, which is owned by five corporations..dictate what is considered 'cool' or not, as well as the local region you happen to be living in. So learn the local culture and subculture in your region and adapt your approach and style of dress to increase your chances of being successful there. Also learn how to verbally defend yourself, and how to talk trash, it could help you out alot.
Until we live in a world where everyone is accepted for who they, are no matter how different, it's important to wake up to the reality of the world that we are living in. Society and culture are NOT your friends, as Terrence McKenna said..advertisers are not your friends either. They also just want to mind-control you..This path is not for the faint-hearted, you will be tested MERCILESSLY by people and by society for daring to go against their norms, and doing what it actually takes to become free and happy. It's going to take courage, real courage to do this..but guess what, courage is just the decision, the choice to do the right thing no matter how afraid you are. You can keep on feeling like a victim though, and suffering, and living a sh***y life, or you can ask yourself..have you had enough yet? Have you had enough pain and BS, that you don't even care about fear anymore, or even death? The choice is yours...
08 Jun 2015, 6:54 am
