How do you act around someone you're interested in?

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This could be someone you know well or not at all. What are some of the "signs" you exhibit?

As a female, I notice that around someone I don't know well who I am interested in I tend to want to hide or run away whenever they enter the same room I'm in. For example, if I'm at a store or at school and that person enters, I tend to hide myself behind a wall or I'll have my body facing away from that person. Occasionally I will shoot quick glances at the person, but they're so quick that the person doesn't even notice. There's a part of me that wants this person to notice and then another part of me that wants to remain invisible. I have difficulty figuring out how much staring is appropriate.

When it comes to someone I know at an acquaintance level that I'm interested in, I'll start to feel comfortable with some eye contact but I still have problems feeling comfortable with prolonged staring unless they're staring at me first. I'm always afraid of being seen as "creepy" or "obsessive" though unfortunately this can also mean that I appear uninterested.

I would like to know how everyone else acts in similar situation.

I try to talk to them to get to know them & be their supportive friend.

Hey CoffinCrawler.

Signs: I don't necessarily talk more; rather, I get giggly, goofy, and tend to blush more.

I joke and smile a lot, but am VERY clumsy. More so than usual any way.

I try to "steal" glances from them. I'm not afraid to initiate it, but I'm quite observant if they reciprocate or not. If they reciprocate, I just continue looking at them from time to time to check their persistence. If they don't reciprocate, I'll move on and try somebody else. I think as many as 1 out of 10 women will reciprocate. Some will not be interested, so will only reciprocate one or two times and then stop.

As for how long to look, you will eventually learn this from experience (but it seemed like I knew this naturally already in my teens). How long to wait between looks also needs to be learned, and in my experience, if you take to long between looks they will typically lose interest (if you look to often you come out as creepy).

I get super super shy.

If a female is hitting on me, I just keep going my way and pretend nothing happened. However, if a female is nice enough in a non-sexual way, I try to maintain a conversation with her, even though I always have trouble maintaining eye contact.

When I was younger, I would avoid them, get very nervous when I was close to them, say stupid things (the words didn't seem to come out of my mouth right), or flat out freeze up when they spoke to me.

Now that I am older, I am much better at speaking to women (even very attractive women), and I usually only get embarrased, shy away, or avoid them, if they are being too forward/pushy with me.

I never had to chase women. I did it for amusement. Now for me I cant really ask a woman to get In my pants, that would screw it up. It's not like I need to get into their body and get all crazy. Its very funny that I can't even get one single woman to date or if I do, things get way to abnormal.

I tended to do The Look with strangers (say at a bar or similar). It has worked a treat in the past, and basically my ability to do this has led to much more success in the dating world than I otherwise would have had.

From http://community.sparknotes.com/2010/01/05/auntie-sparknotes-how-to-flirt-part-1-the-look:

OK I am ignored. Oh Well out the door I go.

I have to know someone to be interested in him so strangers are not an option.
With acquaintances I do "the look" mentioned above.
With friends I take my every chance to talk with them or just stand near them and I smile like an idiot when I see them.
And with someone I really like-like I stare at them whenever they are talking (even when the listen to someone I still stare at them, not at the one speaking), take any chance to touch them (for example taking a piece of dust of their jacket) and protect/care of them (making sure they get home safely, asking if they are not cold etc). The fun thing is noone realizes how I feel even then... they think I am just acting that way because I am their friend... They act surprised when I finally decide to confess.

I flash my feather tail.