Having a rough day

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I'm sad. I broke it off with a guy that I was seeing. He was totally fine with it.

He never cared maybe it's time you should stop caring. If it was gonna get you so worked up why'd u break with him in the first place?

He didn't want a relationship with me. As much as I would love to just "stop caring", I have yet to find the magic switch that turns off emotions. Perhaps you could direct to it's location? lol

I'm sorry to learn you are going through that. For me it can be a long recovery, but recovery does come.

Thanks Marky. Its still fresh and all consuming for me at the moment. Its hard to concentrate. I'm sure it'll get better. It just hurts like hell right now.

Maybe he's not actually "fine" with it. Maybe he's trying to show you a "tough exterior."

I tend to do that when bad things happen to me.

I'm sorry you're having a rough day. But it will, inevitably, get better for you.

Thanks Kraftie

If its just a tough guy exterior then kudos to him, he nailed it. lol

Meanwhile I'm just useless today. I just wanted to talk to someone because I can't get it out of my head. It hurts so bloody much.

You're not useless.

Crap happens in life. It doesn't make you useless.

What might make you "useless" is giving up on it all.

I hope you don't think I'm being too blunt.

It's just that it's so easy to give up when adversity hits you. I've had that temptation. You have to ward it off aggressively.

It's hard for me to focus and I don't have the motivation to do ANYTHING. I feel like a zombie.

I know what you mean.

About 15 years ago or so, I felt like a zombie, too. I wanted to just go in front of cars and get hit.

I'm lucky I was able to get on the traffic island before I got hit!

I think you'll be okay. I think you have good strength.

I had that thought too...but then I worried about who would feed the dog. At least my dog loves me lol

When I was 15, there was a point where I relied solely on my spoiled Persian cat, Zum Zum.

I think you need some quality time with your dog.

Why you looking for a switch, your brain isn't a dam circuit board.... Smarty pants. It's called redirecting or channeling your emotions. Turn that "poor me" attitude into "f*k him I can get better attitude" and see which one suits you better

Last edited by Crazyfool on 13 Jul 2015, 11:05 am, edited 1 time in total.

If your fighting the urge to tell me the brain actually is our biological circuit board.... Save me the f'ing lecture, I'm not an idiot, and your missing my point.

I envy you having a doggie to turn to!

To be drearily scientific for a moment: for me a lot of the break-up distress comes from oxytocin withdrawal. A recent study suggested that humans can get an oxytocin surge from looking into their dog's eyes. Now I really want a dog again!

Hold up! Wait a minute! I said no such thing lol. I think you're right. It really is my choice to feel bad for myself. I'm having a hard time because in all honesty the guy didn't do anything wrong. So it's kind of hard for me to say "f*ck him". He treated me well and he was forthright with me. However we didn't want the same things. I would just continue to want more than what he wanted in the world of coupledom...(couplehood? Coupleness? Whatever, I'm making up words). *Shrugs* f*ck it.