How Can I Increase My Attractiveness

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Alright, so I wouldn't say I'm the worst looking guy in the world, but I do believe I'm below average. Maybe a 3 or 4 out of 10. I've never had a girlfriend or anything like that, and I'm pretty sure no one has ever been particularly attracted to me. I feel as though my looks are a hindrance where finding romance is concerned, as I have a few noticeable flaws (lazy eye, crooked teeth, up-turned nose), but I don't want them to be something girls have to look past, I want them to be an asset.

My ultimate (and hopefully realistic) goal here isn't to become Channing Tatum, but I wish my appearance would make at least a few girls look twice, especially girls I am attracted to (I'm not looking for a model, but I do have standards).

I'm just kinda over feeling undesirable, and I wish I knew what to do about it. Your input is greatly appreciated.

There is only so much we can do to improve our looks (without expensive procedures, that is), but here are a couple of suggestions:

Make sure you are clean and well groomed
Make sure your clothes are in good shape, and in relatively current fashion (they don't have to be expensive name brands, though).
Think positive
Work on your confidence
Improve your social skills
And the single most important thing...get out there where the women are at. You can't meet them if you are never around them.

How do you feel about makeup? Because, I swear, it is magical. A quick google search found ways to make lazy eye less apparent and some nose fixes.

Anyway SilverStar gave you some awesome tips! One thing about the clothes: make sure they fit well! Them being out of style isn't as bad as if they don't fit. My brother dresses like he popped out of a fifties television show, but the girls still swarm him because he wears clothing that looks nice and fits well. Whatever you decide to wear, though, make sure you feel awesome in it. That confidence will shine through, and it's attractive.

I know girls with upturned noses can make them less apparent by remembering to tip their head down and to be sure not to smile too broadly. If you're pretty tall I don't think it would make much difference, though. Sorry.

Thanks for the reply. Those are good suggestions. I do keep myself well-groomed. I have a reasonable selection of good clothes, but I could probably stand to extend my wardrobe a bit. Positive thinking's a tough one, but I'm working on it. Working on my confidence is even harder, and I'm not entirely sure how to boost it. I believe my social skills are relatively good mentally, but my physical execution is awkward and leaves a lot to be desired. Not entirely sure how to fix that either. As for meeting women, I think I'd be more inclined to do so if I didn't feel as though I have a 99% chance of rejection.

Yeah, my mentality isn't the best, but I guess that's partially due to my experiences with women in the past, and how they always find most other guys more physically attractive than me. The desire to better my looks isn't ALL about the outcome with women, but also to feel better about myself.

Ah, yeah, that makes sense. Good natural makeup is something people shouldn't be able to tell you're wearing, but that takes a good deal of practice to get right. Golly, you're tall, okay head tilting won't work. Only other thing I can think of would be to try a new hairstyle, or maybe a more striking glasses frame? If you make a part of your face that you like be the focal point that's what people will see.

Well I am aspiring to grow my beard longer so I guess that kinda counts

You don't look too unattractive; more than a 4/10.

the way you 'carry' yourself is a lot more important really: stand straight up, don't look at your shoes, that kind of behaviour

Hey bro, I really don't see what all the hype is about, going by your profile photo you look like a pretty good looking dude (no homo).

I don't think you should start wearing makeup (if that was a serious answer), hiding from your flaws will only make you more worried about them showing. I think what you said about turning your flaws into an asset is smart. The only way to really do that is to just embrace them, joke about them show people you're not really bothered by such petty things.

There are only so many things a guy can do. Someone listed off most of them but make sure you keep up with yourself...and it looks like you do, you seem clean shaven and well groomed.

Sounds like you really need to work on your confidence because you are no 4/10, just looking at your profile pic I wouldn't have guessed women find you unattractive. Do you weight lift? Lifting has helped me make some awesome changes in my body, which in return gave me a ton more confidence.

OP, how tall are you? Height also plays a roll on how attractive you are to the opposite sex. If you're 5 ft 6 and under, you're not going to be perceived as attractive. Although some girls may find you cute if you're short and have a good looking face. Attractiveness isn't all in the face, a lot of it is in your body type. Generally speaking, tall skinny guys are more attractive then shorter fatter guys, although this may not be the preference for all women.

OP judging by your face alone, I don't think your terrible looking. Maybe your problem like so many aspie guys before you is that your demeanor makes you come off as socially awkward or distant, maybe you have a weird voice as well. You'd be surprised on how your demeanor can make you more attractive to women.

Looks are not the primary driving factor as to what is attractive to females.

Confidence > Looks (when it comes to a male trying to obtain a female)

Followed by various combinations of cleanliness, self-responsibility, fashion-style, fame, wealth, maturity, and being able to make her feel comfortable/secure & wanting to be around or with you.

They tend to notice little things more so than major things (what kinds of clothes you wear, how you wear said clothes, whether your hair has been combed or styled or not, you confidence-levels, etc).

Thanks for the replies, everyone.

I have worked out in the past, and I've been thinking about starting up again. Quite honestly, my body could stand to benefit from some toning up, and I'd imagine getting back into gym would help my confidence at least a little.

Height-wise, I'm about 5'11, and I find it pretty rare that I'd meet a girl who is taller than me, so I don't think my height is/will be an issue.

Hypnosis is certainly something I'm open to, especially if I can get it done with recordings or what have you. I'm not exactly sure how I would search for one to strengthen my demeanour, but if I could find what I needed, I'd definitely give it a go.

Suits, athletic clothes(when you're in shape), dress shirts, and jeans are all good clothing choices. Graphic shirts are good too, BUT not all the time. It's also good to have a variety. If you wear graphic shirts, they'll good to wear with denim jeans, or shorts. Cargo shorts that look nice and formal are also good. Basically you want to dress like a cross between James Bond, The Winchester Brothers(from the tv show Supernatural), and professional athlete.