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04 Sep 2015, 3:04 pm

Now that I think of it, that quote, coming from a woman, to me, reads, "Don't try to understand me---you're much too stupid for that". It's a good way to remind me how completely beyond my reach she is.


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04 Sep 2015, 4:25 pm

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The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.

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:P


In the old days, "men" and humans were used interchangeably. :P

I think this is true in the Italian language (because it is the case in French too).

Yeah uomo in Italian can mean human being too. One thing that I hate is when they quote without indicating where the quote is taken from. Are we certain that this is an actual quote?
About the Oscar Wilde quote, I find it odd that a woman would quote it. If I were a woman I'd be pretty annoyed reading something like that.


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04 Sep 2015, 8:03 pm

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What I find they do wrong is that they aren't direct & straightforward enough with me & take what I say the wrong ways.

Yeah I think that's more likely to occur with females than males, also more likely to occur with NTs than aspies (for the same reasons). I find most people do this "wrong" just in everyday life, but I suppose you just have to tolerate it in the rest of life. In a relationship you want someone who "gets" you so it's more poignant when dealing with it with a partner.



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04 Sep 2015, 8:24 pm

This little tidbit from the web pretty much sums it up :D :


1. If you think you are fat, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.
2. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down.
3. Do not cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then, you are stuck with her.
4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect gift yet again!
5. If you ask a question you don't want the answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
6. Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
7. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
8. Sunday=Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
9. Shopping is not a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.10. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
11. You have enough clothes.
12. You have too many shoes.
13. Crying is blackmail.
14. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.
15. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!
16. No we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
17. Yes, peeing standing up is harder. We are bound to miss sometimes.
18. Most guys own three pairs of shoes. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress.
19. Yes and no are perfectly good answers to almost every question.
20. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That is what we do. Sympathy is what girlfriends are for.
21. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. Go see a doctor.
22. Foreign films are for foreigners.
23. Check your oil.
24. Do not fake it. We would rather be ineffective than deceived.
25. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.
26. No, it does not matter which quiz.
27. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
28. If you won't dress up like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
29. If something we said can be interpreted in two ways, and one of the ways makes you angry or sad, we meant the other.
30. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway. It is genetic.
31. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
32. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done, not both.
33. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during the commercials.
34. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, neither do we.
35. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
36. More women should were Wonderbras and low-cut blouses. We like staring at boobs.
37. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
38. ALL men see only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.
39. Pumpkin is also a fruit.
40. If it itches, it will be scratched.
41. Beer is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
42. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet/attic/basement.
43. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
44. If we ask what is wrong and you say, "Nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
45. If we hear from an old girlfriend, we will briefly fantasize about having sex with her. But do not worry; the fantasy includes you AND her together.
46. What the hell is a doily?



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04 Sep 2015, 9:35 pm

SilverStar wrote:
This little tidbit from the web pretty much sums it up :D :


1. If you think you are fat, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.
2. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down.
3. Do not cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then, you are stuck with her.
4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect gift yet again!
5. If you ask a question you don't want the answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
6. Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
7. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
8. Sunday=Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
9. Shopping is not a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.10. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
11. You have enough clothes.
12. You have too many shoes.
13. Crying is blackmail.
14. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.
15. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!
16. No we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
17. Yes, peeing standing up is harder. We are bound to miss sometimes.
18. Most guys own three pairs of shoes. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress.
19. Yes and no are perfectly good answers to almost every question.
20. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That is what we do. Sympathy is what girlfriends are for.
21. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. Go see a doctor.
22. Foreign films are for foreigners.
23. Check your oil.
24. Do not fake it. We would rather be ineffective than deceived.
25. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.
26. No, it does not matter which quiz.
27. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
28. If you won't dress up like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
29. If something we said can be interpreted in two ways, and one of the ways makes you angry or sad, we meant the other.
30. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway. It is genetic.
31. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
32. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done, not both.
33. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during the commercials.
34. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, neither do we.
35. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
36. More women should were Wonderbras and low-cut blouses. We like staring at boobs.
37. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
38. ALL men see only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.
39. Pumpkin is also a fruit.
40. If it itches, it will be scratched.
41. Beer is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
42. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet/attic/basement.
43. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
44. If we ask what is wrong and you say, "Nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
45. If we hear from an old girlfriend, we will briefly fantasize about having sex with her. But do not worry; the fantasy includes you AND her together.
46. What the hell is a doily?


Omg. #3 happened at work recently. A coworker just got married and when she came back to work she had cut her hair real short saying "I'm married now so now I don't have to worry about it." Huh.

#6 8O This just can't be true! Tell me it isn't so!

#14 Aren't you an "ex" Mr. S? :D

#24 This surely can't be true. :roll:


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04 Sep 2015, 9:45 pm

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I like this quote. :)


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04 Sep 2015, 9:53 pm

SilverStar wrote:
This little tidbit from the web pretty much sums it up :D :


1. If you think you are fat, you probably are. Do not ask us. We refuse to answer.
2. Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down.
3. Do not cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then, you are stuck with her.
4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect gift yet again!
5. If you ask a question you don't want the answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
6. Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
7. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
8. Sunday=Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
9. Shopping is not a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way.10. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
11. You have enough clothes.
12. You have too many shoes.
13. Crying is blackmail.
14. Your ex-boyfriend is an idiot.
15. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it!
16. No we do not know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
17. Yes, peeing standing up is harder. We are bound to miss sometimes.
18. Most guys own three pairs of shoes. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress.
19. Yes and no are perfectly good answers to almost every question.
20. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That is what we do. Sympathy is what girlfriends are for.
21. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. Go see a doctor.
22. Foreign films are for foreigners.
23. Check your oil.
24. Do not fake it. We would rather be ineffective than deceived.
25. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.
26. No, it does not matter which quiz.
27. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
28. If you won't dress up like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
29. If something we said can be interpreted in two ways, and one of the ways makes you angry or sad, we meant the other.
30. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway. It is genetic.
31. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
32. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done, not both.
33. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during the commercials.
34. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, neither do we.
35. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
36. More women should were Wonderbras and low-cut blouses. We like staring at boobs.
37. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.
38. ALL men see only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach is a fruit, not a color.
39. Pumpkin is also a fruit.
40. If it itches, it will be scratched.
41. Beer is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
42. If it is OUR house, I do not understand why MY stuff gets thrown in the closet/attic/basement.
43. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
44. If we ask what is wrong and you say, "Nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
45. If we hear from an old girlfriend, we will briefly fantasize about having sex with her. But do not worry; the fantasy includes you AND her together.
46. What the hell is a doily?


This doesn't apply to all aspie guys. I don't relate to most of this. A lot of it actually sounds like sexist hooey. How old are you? This isn't the 1950s, and most women aren't all about shoes and shopping. No wonder so many guys here are so hopeless with women, if this is a good example of how you all think. :roll:



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04 Sep 2015, 9:58 pm

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:D :D :D

I like this quote. :)


Why? It's twaddle. Oscar Wilde was gay, so are we really going to go to him for ideas on how women are in relationships and how to treat them? I'm beginning to rethink joining this forum--I don't know how much help I'm ever going to get associating with guys who think like this. I don't think this is the best place to look for help on how to improve my relationships with people, certainly not with women, if this is how you all think. What is with all the sexist men on here?--is that somehow associated with autism in males, and I'm some kind of statistical outlier for not believing these things about women and just trying to think about them like they are people just like me?



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04 Sep 2015, 10:10 pm

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This doesn't apply to all aspie guys. I don't relate to most of this. A lot of it actually sounds like sexist hooey. How old are you? This isn't the 1950s, and most women aren't all about shoes and shopping. No wonder so many guys here are so hopeless with women, if this is a good example of how you all think. :roll:


I pulled it off the web...I didn't say I agreed with everything. :wink: And yes, it's gender bashing at it's finest. :D



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04 Sep 2015, 10:24 pm

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Omg. #3 happened at work recently. A coworker just got married and when she came back to work she had cut her hair real short saying "I'm married now so now I don't have to worry about it." Huh.

#6 8O This just can't be true! Tell me it isn't so!

#14 Aren't you an "ex" Mr. S? :D

#24 This surely can't be true. :roll:



3. Damn women with their bait-and-switch tricks. :D I prefer long hair on most women, but there are some that look good with shorter (not a buzz cut) hair.

6. I'm sorry, but it's true. :D

14. Yes.

24. We can tell the difference ya know...well, most of us anyways. :)



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04 Sep 2015, 10:31 pm

What I know about women is that I'm fairly sure they posess more than six elementary senses. As a guy, I'm celinged at six (accounting for the plausibility of ESP) and thus I use blind inference where females might use intuition.

I disagree with Oscar Wilde as well, that's a false bifurcation, love and understanding are inseparable. That combined with what I've seen of these more pronounced senses in girls leads me to think I'm in the wrong shoes to tell you where you're going wrong. Any girl who keeps her cool and acts on this tremendous volume of information in positive ways gracefully counteracts any trouble she may cause.

Who the hell am I to tell you how to look? I appreciate the audacity of girls who ignore trends, certainly more than I do for my guy friends, for us that takes LESS effort. Appearance is just another language, I'm monochromatic so I can read more than I monologue.


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What I know about women is that I'm fairly sure they posess more than six elementary senses. As a guy, I'm celinged at six (accounting for the plausibility of ESP) and thus I use blind inference where females might use intuition.


Men are usually more logical and direct, and women are usually more emotional and indirect. Contrary to popular belief, I believe neither sex is more "intellegent" than the other, it's just that we communicate differently, and have different strengths and weaknesses.



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Omg. #3 happened at work recently. A coworker just got married and when she came back to work she had cut her hair real short saying "I'm married now so now I don't have to worry about it." Huh.

#6 8O This just can't be true! Tell me it isn't so!

#14 Aren't you an "ex" Mr. S? :D

#24 This surely can't be true. :roll:



3. Damn women with their bait-and-switch tricks. :D I prefer long hair on most women, but there are some that look good with shorter (not a buzz cut) hair.

6. I'm sorry, but it's true. :D

14. Yes.

24. We can tell the difference ya know...well, most of us anyways. :)


#14. Does that qualify you for the "Idiot" category then, Mr. S?


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04 Sep 2015, 11:07 pm

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Omg. #3 happened at work recently. A coworker just got married and when she came back to work she had cut her hair real short saying "I'm married now so now I don't have to worry about it." Huh.

#6 8O This just can't be true! Tell me it isn't so!

#14 Aren't you an "ex" Mr. S? :D

#24 This surely can't be true. :roll:



3. Damn women with their bait-and-switch tricks. :D I prefer long hair on most women, but there are some that look good with shorter (not a buzz cut) hair.

6. I'm sorry, but it's true. :D

14. Yes.

24. We can tell the difference ya know...well, most of us anyways. :)


#14. Does that qualify you for the "Idiot" category then, Mr. S?


Yes, I got what you "implied". hahahhaha



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Men are usually more logical and direct, and women are usually more emotional and indirect. Contrary to popular belief, I believe neither sex is more "intellegent" than the other, it's just that we communicate differently, and have different strengths and weaknesses.


I'm fortunate enough to know some EXTREMELY smart girls. Despite the inexorable differences, I second the parity in intelligence; society would've dissapeared long ago if not for great minds thinking alike. I think we share more styles of communication than we realize, writing, art, music, engineering and science all exemplify this for me. I'd be a hell of a lot lonelier if not for women in arts and tech. I say art first because there's little if any therapeutic potential in art forms controlled by the highest bidders. Some of us just want to hang out and create something. Really, anything.


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Omg. #3 happened at work recently. A coworker just got married and when she came back to work she had cut her hair real short saying "I'm married now so now I don't have to worry about it." Huh.

#6 8O This just can't be true! Tell me it isn't so!

#14 Aren't you an "ex" Mr. S? :D

#24 This surely can't be true. :roll:



3. Damn women with their bait-and-switch tricks. :D I prefer long hair on most women, but there are some that look good with shorter (not a buzz cut) hair.

6. I'm sorry, but it's true. :D

14. Yes.

24. We can tell the difference ya know...well, most of us anyways. :)


#14. Does that qualify you for the "Idiot" category then, Mr. S?


Yes, I got what you "implied". hahahhaha


I wouldn't worry about it, Mr. S. I'm sure there's a time limit for Idiocy - something like bankruptcy maybe? 7 yrs you think?


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