Are you a competitive person?

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I've noticed that my AS daughter is highly competitive, even though it causes her incredible amounts of stress and over-stimulation, both internally and by pushing her into bad stimulus environments. I don't know if I'd be that way, as I had an exceedingly structured & controlled environment as a child & once I was broken, repressed most of who I was. So, I'm wondering if you consider yourself (or other people tell you you are) highly competitive, if it works for you and if it causes stress, how you accommodate or avoid it.

I think it might be part of autistic "taking things too seriously".
Some of us pick up on the huge competition theme in modern media and go overboard in our heads.

I'm very competitive - came in handy during nursing school. However, I didn't pick "always must win" because I'm also a realist and know it's impossible to always be #1. When I don't win I'm my own worst enemy because I dwell on it excessively and what I did wrong that made me not win. I don't quit. I will keep at it until I get the desired result - which sometimes has taken years.

I like a good challenge and I love coming out on top. We used to do the dumbest stuff as kids to try and out do one another, bike races down hills going faster then the cars, arm wrestle, flip tractor tires, going inside of a giant tractor tire with 2 other guys then rolling down a huge hill while inside it (got a video of that one, what a rush), cliff jumping, polar bear swimming, seeing who would climb the highest tree, seeing who could take the most shots to bare skin from a paintball gun, atomic wing challenge at our local bar, who could lift more weight, basement boxing matches, streaking down mainstreet while the firemans festival was going on and people were everywhere...basically if you said I couldn't/ wouldn't do it...I'd prove you wrong or damn near die trying.

I compete with myself to be the best version of me that I can be. I am always seeking to improve and refine everything that I do.

Do any of you who are highly competitive feel stress or anxiety because of it? And if so, how to do you handle that, please?

I like to win. Especially when I play games.

I hate competition, but I am a perfectionist and a very hard worker, so in a way, I normally end up doing better than others or winning.

RUN! RUN!
This is how not to enjoy my life. Took me time to find out, I used to be very competitive and burnt out from it.
I prefer to just be in peace with the world.

I'm not competitive even I tried to. I get anxious about competitions even I'm aware that I'm 'better'.

Or maybe I'm just never confident.

However, that doesn't mean I'm incompetent. I just don't gamble on things or to 'win' to get serious. I prefer my own pace and learn, not trying hard to keep up on others. If anything, I prefer to be apathetic whomsoever wins.

And what's worse is winning doesn't motivate me. Sometimes it motivates me to hold back and get the 2nd place or worse. Even if I get to win, I don't feel any better... Especially if I do things halfheartedly and end up winning, I end up being confused or frustrated about it. Sometimes, I wonder why is this...?

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If it's something I'm really skilled at it (or love playing) then yes extremely, but other than that then competitiveness is a big no no for me.

I'm not competitive at all. I care about having fun &/or doing things right.

Not really. In fact often I feel like I am just a born loser. And when I do try really hard at something like a contest for best art or Halloween costume but someone else wins, I feel like what I did just wasn't good enough. Sometimes I think the judges thought I was cheating as a kid because my drawing skills were like that of an older person. In fact, I found out one time the judges really had thought I was cheating at first! It took someone who had seen my drawings to convince them otherwise.