AnneOleson wrote:
I thought your new antidepressant fixed that problem and made you extra “frisky “?
Not quite. Effexor actually lowers your libido as a side effect. My doctor warned me; I told him I didn't care. As a result, I can talk to attractive women, flirt with them, and hug them, and yet feel nothing sexually. On that note, I noticed that women seem more comfortable hugging me and dancing with me than they did before I went on Effexor. Although, my aversion to everything beyond hugs started back in 2017, when my friends moved in with their girlfriends and started living like prison inmates, with the only differences being sex with a woman and better food.
In the nightclub incident, it wasn't even sex; it was just French kissing and a little extra. Fully clothed, in public view on the dance floor, all while I was drunk as a skunk. Not only that, the woman didn't demand a relationship from me afterwards. Which made me feel "safe" with her. I'm sure she just got giddy from the nightclub atmosphere, and wanted to fool around a little with a man she found attractive (me). That felt like a bigger compliment than anything else I can think of, and I'm sure it counteracted some of Effexor's libido-killing effects. (As opposed to her demanding a relationship with me, along with the prison-like drudgery that comes with it, because we kissed.)