Imagine a 30 year old male dating a 19 year old female...

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I know thats kinda the problem with generalization. But I dont think 19 year old parents are the norm.

I think maturity is a big thing. But I think its best to find someone close to you in maturity and in age. Just because I can sometimes act like a 12 year old, doesnt mean I should date a 12 year old. Ya know?

An if no one your age is close to your maturity and refuses to date you you should what reject younger women Abe be alone forever?

Are you comparing dating younger adult women to pedophiles ?

Here a lot of 19 old women have kids. Some have multiple kids.

She's not saying you're a pedophile. I guess she's not into older men.

I don't believe you dating a 19-year-old should be considered anything to be judged. I just don't believe it's really that big a deal.

The rule I've heard is half your age plus seven. Because algebra is involved in dating now.

According to that rule, Sly can date somebody 22 1/2 years old or above LOL

X/2 + 7 =

There used to be this comic called "The Far Side."

Within one episode, a whole bunch of people were talking to each other in equations within a "singles bar".....

She seems to be comparing men who date younger women to it though :/

And yet it clearly is judged

Now it’s your age exactly or older but since the older has to date their age or older you can’t date them.
Though this might just apply to men as I’ve never heard anything bad about a 30 old woman dating a 18 old man for example

Even these days, it is most frequent for the man to be older than the woman.

K yeah so not what I was saying. A 19 year old isnt a child. I was just saying the maturity rule doesnt always apply. And that it shouldnt really be how you decide who to or not to date. I kinda feel like theres other more important factors. But thats just me. Also it isnt just older men with younger women. Older women with younger men feels mostly the same. Although Im not a huge fan of the whole 'MILF' thing which is why its probably looked at differently by society. And yeah societys gonna judge. (its what they do best!) Its just not the norm for most people. Plus, studies show the wider the age gap the more likely a divorce would happen.

Again, 19 year old parents are the norm. Yes, Im generalizing but whatever thats why theres such thing as an average. And Ive already addressed why maybe this particular site might get different answers than usual. Nothing against anyone, but yall have mentioned a lot of you think you mature slower than NTs.
Besides, even Id honestly be ok with dating someone at a slightly different maturity level than me. I mean, so long as they arent acting like a middle schooler than Im ok with a little above or below my own. Cause hey, on one hand they might bring out my own playful, youthful side more. And on the other, they might help me grow in maturity myself.



Yeah its kinda a girl thing. Or well teen girl thing at least. Years of camp have taught me that. Most teen girls have a list and 'taller' and 'older' are usually on it. Its like a thing.

But ya know whats important is how you feel when you're with someone, not how many years separate you. And everyone is allowed to have their own opinions and preferences. So, whatever floats your goat I guess.

Well, not in this society... but maybe if they're heir in line to become God-Emperor.

As for young parents, it depends on your community and society.

dating yes. sex no.

Doesnt dating typically come with sex?

So they can date and get married but never have sex their whole lives unless they cheat?

Typically, yes. But I'm at a point in life where the idea of having sex disgusts me. This includes most forms of foreplay and even nudity. I'd sell my soul to date without sex. Fully-clothed French kissing and fondling is fine if I'm really drunk, and only if I'm really drunk, but that's the maximum I'm comfortable with. Sadly, most women my age won't stand for it; they'll demand sex from me. Well, at least today, I have a plausible excuse: the antidepressant I take wiped out whatever was left of my libido.