What are some silly reasons why someone disliked you?
I lived with two roommates with two girls who were 6 and 8 years older. Even though they agreed to let a youngster stay there. One of them discovered that I was not only very immature and irresponsible but also that I wasn't her age and would never fit in.
Because I have overcome so much there are other people on the spectrum along next to others with different disabilities who didn't quite know how to get to where I had gone so I am often shunned and avoided.
Parents of others with disabilities ,who believe their child is broken, often get an attitude with me once they find out what I have done with my life. (College, career, independence etc).
yeah, thank goodness for nintendium! even the newer 3ds i used to have survived its fall atop a high cabinet to a tile floor, and i for sure thought it was screwed. some of my older gamecube games have had trouble starting up because of how scratched they've gotten over the years, i've been really careful to not let them degrade some more.
this reminds me of a time i was having thankgsiving at a friends's house with her extended family and i managed to screw up so badly i dropped a slice of turkey and in trying to grab it i think i pushed it across the whole table. or something. not much heads were turned but i felt embarrassed.
thank goodness i don't go to school with kids anymore.
i think it's their problem too, if they want to put the blame of an accident on me.
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הכי, הכי עמוקים
לא לשמוע כלום
לא לדעת כלום
וזה הכל אהובי, זה הכל.
Because I always talked about my special interests way too much...... One guy even decided to be a dick and assume that I was a nazi just because my special interests are history, weapons, and warfare.....
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When I was a teenager I learned the hard way how adolescents are the cruelest, most heartless and judgmental beings on the face of the earth. Here are just a few reasons why they made my life miserable:
-Obsessed with cartoons
-Obsessed with drawing cartoons
-Being overweight
-Being a "loner"
-Liking animals
-Being bad at sports
-Not acting like a "normal" teen
-And sometimes for no obvious reason at all. I once asked a girl why she didn't like me, and she said I didn't want to know. But she was unpleasant to me from day one. She had serious issues.
-Obsessed with cartoons
-Obsessed with drawing cartoons
-Being overweight
-Being a "loner"
-Liking animals
-Being bad at sports
-Not acting like a "normal" teen
-And sometimes for no obvious reason at all. I once asked a girl why she didn't like me, and she said I didn't want to know. But she was unpleasant to me from day one. She had serious issues.
You and I have some of these in common. As for the dislike part I asked a former friend if they felt that way about me as well as their spouse and they got super quiet.
I have had several people act this way towards me. So much so, that a few of them have even tried to cause me problems because of it, all the while, I am thinking to myself "why would anybody be jealous of me?".
The best thing we can do is feel sorry for someone like because it's obvious these are people who are not capable of liking you because their envy is so strong and distracting that it keeps them in a little box.
I would imagine my situation is similar to Fnord in that I am too "boring", ask too many clarification questions and am very knowledgeable and apparently people hate those who know what they are talking about.
The only time I got an explanation for why I was rejected was a date who told me I reminded her of her ex-Husband. Hearing her describe his traits (lazy, played video games all day, never cared about her) made me jump to my own defence to which she replied "you don't need to explain yourself." In hindsight she already projected him onto me and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it.
Apparently feeling good about yourself=cockiness although the cockiest, most arrogant people I know have no shortage of follo... er friends.
I ask questions all the time, and I was always confused as to why the other kids in elementary school wouldn't let me play with them.
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I STILL to this day cannot figure out why none of the kids would let me play with them. Sure I was a smart kid but I was not the only one and I never talked about my interests in Political Geography and the Solar System to anyone unless asked. Even the neighbourhood kids were downright cruel to me (like stealing my bike and only my bike and trashing it) for absolutely no reason.
I STILL to this day cannot figure out why none of the kids would let me play with them. Sure I was a smart kid but I was not the only one and I never talked about my interests in Political Geography and the Solar System to anyone unless asked. Even the neighbourhood kids were downright cruel to me (like stealing my bike and only my bike and trashing it) for absolutely no reason.
I feel the same way. I tried to be nice to people. Why were they mean?
Until I began to learn about autism a few years ago, I had always thought that it was all THEM. They decided to be mean to me because they were naturally cruel or something. But as I read about autistic traits, I began to wonder if there might not have been something much more complicated going on.
Maybe they were all exchanging some subtle social communication that I just did not detect, and so my responses were not what they expected and sometimes I was perceived as being selfish or destructive to what they were doing. Maybe some of their negative behavior toward me was a response to my inadvertently disrupting their social communication and the little groups and networks they were setting up in their play.
I have seen characters in TV and movies who were creating trouble for themselves by being oblivious to the social interaction of others around them. I see that I may be such a character in my own life.
I am resigned to the fact that I will never know. I couldn't see it then and I can't see it now, so it's all theoretical.
I have thought about that. I have also thought about how many kids picked on me almost instantly after meeting me. I cannot see how anyone could do anything in that short length of time to motivate such reactions. It further puzzles me how some groups (Mothers and Africans for example) seem to universally and instantly like me. With the mothers, it's more a case of 'I wish you were my son' rather than a 'pity like'
It also puzzled me how certain kids became popular for being good at video games. When I destroyed them in a competition (after hearing their arrogant boasts about being unbeatable), it was like it literally never happened and nobody acknowledged it. It further puzzled me how the kids bullied me for liking games when they did the exact same thing themselves! Pointing that out just made it even worse.