Your age for "first times"

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I know it might sound pessimistic, but it's actually the opposite. Since I'm 26 and alone and have little faith at this point of having a romantic relationship to last (or to start...), it might be encouraging to hear from others who also at my age were alone so far, and then found someone later. It's just that in the NT world if you haven't achieved something until age X, you're sometimes doomed.

So I'll start:
My first kiss: Age 19
My first intercourse (and my only one so far): Age 22
My first real girlfriend: Never so far

my first kiss 17 .
sex 18
girlfriend never had one

First real date: 18
First kiss: 20
First sex: 22 (escort)
First girlfriend/free sex: 23

First crush: Around 13-14
First nonverbal "relationship": Around 14-15
First "official"relationship: 29
First kiss: 29
First married: 31
First sexual intercourse: 31
First date: Never dated

Crush: I don't remember. 14 maybe? Was denying the legitimacy of a relationship or sex at the time.
Hold hands: Never
Kiss: 22, with a complete stranger. It took some courage and was awkward
Date: Never
Sex: Never
Relationship: Never

First kiss and BF: 13
Lost virginity: 17 (to different boyfriend)

I was somewhat of late a late bloomer; second boyfriend wasn't til senior year.

well iam 20
first kiss: well that's the interesting part i would not call it that so i havent yet
lost virginity not yet
i haven't found the one yet

My 1st girlfriend was when I was 20 & that was a mostly online thing.
I 1st had sex when I was 29.
I had my 1st kiss when I was 28 or 29
The ladder two were with my current girlfriend.

Looks like I'm someone here who has managed to find success quite young, so unfortunately I may not be able to make you feel better. Just know that, judging by the other posts, I'm definitely not the average for an aspie male.

I'm still 16 but not for much longer as I turn 17 in about 1 week.

But:

First date: 16
First relationship: 16
First time slept over a girl's house: 16
First kiss: Haven't had it yet, though considering I have my second ever girlfriend right now, it's probably going to happen sooner or later depending if we last or not.
Still a virgin, but again, if me and my 2nd girlfriend last, give or take 6-12 months from now I won't be.

first crush - grade school
first date - early high school
first kiss, relationship - high school
first sex - 26
first marriage - 52

It might not be so different. My obsessions about girls, which for me worked like real relationships, happened about the same time as yours. By 16 I already had two or three of those. It's more a issue of what is regarded as a relationship and what is not.

Besides, I'm sure that a majority of NDs had their first crush already in their early teens. Their inability to move on to typical relationships has more to do with their different preferences. At least that was the case for me.

My first kiss: 16 with a drunk girl (followed by 5 years of no female contact whatsoever)

My first lay: 21 (with a hooker)

My first girlfriend: never had one

First kiss: 19

First f**k: 19(with first gf who was also my first kiss)


After that I went for 8 years without a f**k. But got puh-len-ty of f***s last year with my ex gf.

My first kiss: Not happened yet
My first intercourse: Not happened yet
My first relationship: Not happened yet

Yeah, I'm quite lonely.

Never

Last edited by darkphantomx1 on 16 Nov 2015, 3:23 am, edited 4 times in total.

First crush (Only one) - High school
First date - Not happened
First relationship - Not happened
First kiss - Not happened
First intercourse - Not happened

Communicating with people truly is a hard enterprise. Having a crush is a very intimate relationship to me (as strange as it may sound).