"Date other boring people if you're boring."

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25 Nov 2015, 3:15 pm

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28 Nov 2015, 6:30 am

No. Boring is only an opinion. To someone else you may be seen as interesting.



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29 Nov 2015, 1:46 am

no, cause that's...hm, how do i put it, boring.

all in the eye of the beholder.

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I like to talk about that kinda stuff sometimes, but maybe I'm just so boring that I find talking about pizza for a few minutes a worthwhile topic of conversation. :lol:


if you manage to have an actual conversation on pizza for minutes on end i'd consider you anything but boring. :mrgreen:

devilkisses why do you plan to date as an NT? i'm guessing one will find out sooner or later.


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29 Nov 2015, 1:44 pm

Now that I think about this again I'm not sure if I'd think to act NT. I mean of course there are benefits to being inconspicuous but I don't know if I could identify them. Either my friends know my diagnosis and consider me on the NT fence or they consider me an extremely eccentric NT.


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01 Dec 2015, 1:23 pm

Kiprobalhato wrote:
no, cause that's...hm, how do i put it, boring.

all in the eye of the beholder.

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I like to talk about that kinda stuff sometimes, but maybe I'm just so boring that I find talking about pizza for a few minutes a worthwhile topic of conversation. :lol:


if you manage to have an actual conversation on pizza for minutes on end i'd consider you anything but boring. :mrgreen:

devilkisses why do you plan to date as an NT? i'm guessing one will find out sooner or later.

I'm planning to date as an NT because I'm very NT-like in a lot of ways. I don't like dealing with people who treat me like I'm autistic. I just find a lot of interactions easier when people don't know about my label. Even teachers. I notice that when people know about the autism label they attribute everything to autism. Everything being attributed to one thing isn't a healthy way to be in a relationship.


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01 Dec 2015, 1:46 pm

Boring is subjective.

No one should get into a long-term relationship with someone who bores them silly off the bat. That's, well, boring.

Everyone is boring to someone, and interesting to someone else.

Live the life that interests you. It will, most likely, lead you to other people who find the same things interesting (or at least un-boring).

OTOH, life can get too interesting. I like my boredom. Boredom means the s**t is not currently hitting the fan. Boring means things are humming along as they are supposed to, and there is not an inordinate amount of sand in the gears.


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01 Dec 2015, 3:45 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
I'm planning to date as an NT because I'm very NT-like in a lot of ways. I don't like dealing with people who treat me like I'm autistic. I just find a lot of interactions easier when people don't know about my label. Even teachers. I notice that when people know about the autism label they attribute everything to autism. Everything being attributed to one thing isn't a healthy way to be in a relationship.


oh. i read date as an NT, as in, you planned to pose as one.

that's true. i keep the label hidden and it doesn't seem to be leaking out anymore. :thumright:


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13 Dec 2015, 7:21 pm

Ugh. "boring" is subjective. Different people have different interests. I find people who mostly sit around watching sports on television boring. They probably find me boring because I'm not interested in anything they're interested in. We're simply incompatible. There is no objective standard. Find people who share the same interests. It's hard if you have non-mainstream interests, but that's just life. Life kinda sucks for non-mainstream people. It's harder to relate and fit in period. You need extreme patience in finding the right person.



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13 Dec 2015, 7:30 pm

You don't want to date a boring person - 'boring' itself has a negative connotation, right? So it's like saying "Should I date people I don't want to date because some people don't want to date me?"

You want to date someone who finds you interesting. It's okay if your interests are obscure. Sometimes I've messaged people who talked a lot about a big passion or interest of theirs that I'm not particularly into. It doesn't mean they're boring; in fact, I like it when people have something they can passionately talk about. I learn about something new! Ex., if you know everything about Avatar: The Last Airbender, voice actors, etc. I'd love to talk about what makes it so special to you, even if I'm not that into it.


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19 Aug 2016, 2:31 pm

I think this was an interesting tread! So you are not boring to me. Try to find things you care about, even they are boring for others or special and interesting.



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19 Aug 2016, 4:33 pm

Boring is in the eye of the beholder.

No...

I take that back.

All of the Khardashian sisters are as boring as you can get by anyone's yardstick. Nothing subjective about it.

So if you think you are boring then find a rich rapper like Kanye West to go out with. Problem solved. :D



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28 Dec 2017, 6:39 pm

People only see some fragments of our lives and personalities. The same person looks different from different angles. Therefore don't define you as boring, this is the last thing you want to do. Date someone who stands out and try to be your own kind of dazzling.


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28 Dec 2017, 6:44 pm

ArtemisHolmes wrote:
So it's like saying "Should I date people I don't want to date because some people don't want to date me?"

That's insightful!


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28 Dec 2017, 7:14 pm

Boring to one person may not be to another. You just need to find your boring.