I hate it when I get compliments anyone else feel the same.

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neptunekh
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31 Dec 2015, 9:14 am

My hairdresser is such a bubblehead. She is so stupid because I tell her no compliments on my hair and she's like "Kristine, you have nice thick hair and crap." If I wasn't so polite, I would tell her to go back to Japan!



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31 Dec 2015, 9:15 am

It's hard to respond to compliments. If they are sincere, though, I like them.

I compliment people on their looks sometimes, and their intelligence.



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31 Dec 2015, 9:19 am

The real I hate getting compliments is because of my self-esteem. My hairdresser is so stupid. If I'm reading a comic book and she's doing my hair and talking to me, she doesn't take a hint. I just want her to do my hair, pay her and not talk to me.



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31 Dec 2015, 9:22 am

That makes sense. If somebody were reading something, I'd probably leave them to their reading.



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31 Dec 2015, 9:28 am

Should I give my hairdresser an insult or racist comment?



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31 Dec 2015, 9:33 am

^ No that would be stupid.

I have an aura that makes hairdressers shut up naturally. :D



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31 Dec 2015, 9:35 am

What if I said to her if you compliment again I scream so loud you costumers will leave!



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31 Dec 2015, 9:36 am

That wouldn't be cool....and would probably get you banned from the place.



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31 Dec 2015, 9:40 am

I have learned to accept a compliment by just saying "thank you".

But I've never learned to accept going to the hairdressers.


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31 Dec 2015, 9:54 am

They're meaningless to me, i don't really have a response so I just ignore it.


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31 Dec 2015, 10:00 am

In any industry where tips are a healthy part of the operation's income you're going to have overly social people working there. You pay a bill for the food or the haircut, etc, but you tip the servicer for the asskissing they give you while you're there. A few years back I was at a diner and got an overly bubbly waitress who I could tell was going to make my experience a nightmare so I told her right off the bat, "I'm a solitary person, the more I'm left alone the bigger your tip will be." You'd think I'd killed her siblings with the way she looked back at me.

Realize that in public you have no inherent rights, society will dictate how you have to operate. As infuriating as it can be your best chance at a successful interaction is to just bite your tongue, accept it, and keep your answers very short. The shorter the reply, the more likely the questioner is to assume you're uninterested in the conversation and stop questioning.



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31 Dec 2015, 10:12 am

Just read the comic book.....that's probably the best thing you could do.

Just say what you're reading interests you, so you don't feel like talking. Most people will back off then.



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31 Dec 2015, 10:52 am

If it bothers you that much, why don't you change stylists? You totally have that right.

Another thing you can try, if you feel up for it, is to say to the hairdresser, "I'm not a very chatty person, so is it okay if I just read my comic book and you don't talk to me while you cut my hair?"


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31 Dec 2015, 2:06 pm

Yeah, I hate them sometimes. I even went so far as to having my thread in off the wall section locked because they bother me. I wonder if that's a sign of low self esteem. I've been like this as long as I can remember, being hyper self critical and wanting to appear as small as possible in a public sense.



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31 Dec 2015, 2:14 pm

They don't mean much to me, it's been the same crap my entire life. Oh you're kind, oh you're smart, you can do anything you put your mind to! *snort* A compliment doesn't mean anything if the entire point is to try to make me feel better, just a meaningless platitude that makes me feel worse more times than not. How can I be proud of anything when I am not happy?



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31 Dec 2015, 6:37 pm

I'm not fond of positive or negative compliments. I'm always like, "Oh."