Do you cut people off when you speak?

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Are you kidding? This is like story of my life. There are countless moments where I'm accidentally cutting into a conversation and someone will get mad at me (mostly my mom). The one thing that's really frustrating though is that, when I'm in the middle of a conversation with someone, my mom will just barge in to say what she wants to say and it ruins my concentration.

All the time. My sister was the first one to tell me I do it when I was about 19, since then lecturers, bosses, friends have all told me to stop doing it. So now I know I do it, but have no idea how to stop. If I pay careful attention to whether the other person has finished, I never get a chance and end up saying nothing, and it's such hard work, especially in a group.

Has anyone figured this out? Can someone teach me how to have a conversation without annoying people with interrupting?

I sometimes cut my baby sister off by accident when we have conversations between us and at least one other party. She calls me out every time I do it too. Doesn't help that when she pauses I think she's done speaking in the first place. Maybe i should start raising my hand to speak in those situations.

And when it's a conversation between my mother and my other sister, forget it. Their pauses are so short that by the time I realize that I have a turn to speak one of them's speaking again. By the time I have a chance to say what I wanted they've moved on to a different topic.

I do my best to avoid that. It gets a little hard if I have been waiting to speak for a while.

Sometimes...I also mistake pauses for permission to speak....