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People use the word cute for many things.
For example, when a girl's boyfriend brings her flowers as a surprise.
But then it's not meant as a description of physical features, it's meant to say "you are so thoughtful".
When it's used to describe a man's physical appearance, it can very well be an insult if the man is not extremely hot and it's completely obvious.

For physically unattractive males "cute" can be a trigger word.
Why?
Because "You're cute" said to a man by a woman generally means
1) "You're physically unattractive"
and/or
2) "You're friendship material"

It's similar to calling an overweight girl "fat".
Even if she's just a friend, you generally want to avoid calling her "fat" because it might trigger her to feel ugly.

One does not simply
call a grown man "cute"

I'm called cute----and I'm a pretty "grown" man.

If you enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it, kraftie.
It's just not an overwhelmingly great compliment then.

In my case, when I call an adult guy "cute", it means he's adorable, would be nice to cuddle with, has sweet, friendly and charming personality. When he has hot body, and I think he's attractive I wouldn't call him "hot", I'd rather call him "cute". It's just me.

No problema, my man

True...it's not the same as being called "handsome" or whatever.

But I think Drawyer is really on to something here. "Cute," indeed, has become more complimentary over the past ten years or so.

My evidence is purely anecdotal.

I guess I can look up a linguistics journal or something.

But I do know that the term "cute" has more of a broadened definition than it did 10-20 years ago. I know it from my life experience.

Nowadays, a man could be "cute" because he might be brusque on the outside, but a teddy bear on the inside.

Or he can be "cute" underneath a supposedly ugly exterior. He could have a "cute" personality.

That may be true for a description of character.
I've had an example of that before: The guy who brings his girlfriend flowers. And that can work out just fine, especially if the guy is over 6 feet tall, muscle-packed and with a strong jaw.

However when used to describe physical features, it leans more toward "looking immature"/"unmanly".
After all, the same word is used to describe puppies, small things, kids, babies, shy-but-good-looking women(!)...

I been talking to this guy from okcupid I met yesterday, is it too soon for him to miss me? He already wants me for his girlfriend.

People have only ever used cute to define my actions or by friends who have no romantic interest.

As was pointed out cute is mostly used to describe babies animals, pets, babies, or small things. Most men don't want to be seen as a pet they want to be a romantic partner.

Think of it this way how old you feel if the guy your interested always talked to you in baby talk. Would it make you seem inferior?

Though suppose cute is better then calling a guy pretty.

I don't want to be cute I want to be attractive, I want to be some girls wanted guy.