Would you date someone you didn't want to marry?

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Not always. People who only date if they see serious relationship material in the other person can also meet them on dating sites, you know, where they are intentionally looking for someone to have a relationship. In that case, even if they would only date people who they see as long-term relationship material, they may never of met in person before the first date but at the same time might of had long conversations with them online over a certain period of time.

Also, even if they're meeting people in the traditional way, i.e. socially in the real world and not using online dating services etc, then depending on how often they see each other, it can take everything from a week to a few months to a year to decide whether they they see serious relationship in the other person and decide to date them. So, there is no set time limit.

Yep there's no rules. All I know is no one ever likes me enough to actually take it further

The problem is, there are lots of players online as well only looking for attention, and not really wanting (or expecting) something serious even if they agree to see somebody in the real word. Thus, I don't think online dating is a whole lot better than typical dating. Both scenarios are full of social games.

I could even argue that it is much easier to just play games with people online than it is in real life, mostly because of anonymity issues.

I've changed my mind again. Take a chance. If you like someone, ask them out. For all you know your hesitation is tearing them apart and they feel like a fool for falling for you. They could be sitting crying right now wondering why no one will ever love them.

Take a chance.

I voted "yes", because what I'm looking for is more like a "playground crush" that turns into something vaguely sexual and innocently romantic. I don't feel I'm ready for something so "adultly serious" that marriage would be a consideration.

When thinking about marriage, I feel kind of like a kid thinking about driving a car. He's maybe done it in video games, likely he has gone on bumper cars at the amusement park, but he probably can't truly understand what driving a real car entails and how much responsibility it takes. Except I haven't even done the relationship equivalent of riding bumper cars, which is basically what I'm looking for, and that's the role that dating would have at this time in my life.

That may be a problem for some, but I've not found it to be a problem. I look for people online who don't seem like the game-playing types, and date them. It works for me. I don't play games and if they do, I haven't noticed. It's just a really simple process: find out a few things before meeting to see if, on "paper", they are relationship material; meet them (this is a date); keep meeting them (dating); decide they are who you want to be exclusive with and form a relationship with them; eventually get married.

I don't do the marriage part but the rest works for me, and I'm a non-game-playing aspie. At any point it might not work out and so the process stops. That's fine and it's not a game, it's just part of the figuring-out process.

With what rdos said if you have very strong feelings for someone, you see regular then that will feel like a strong friendship & you will fall in love with your friend, is this really true?