Would you date someone you didn't want to marry?
Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
I think that would be infatuation. Unless you're talking about friends, but I'm just meaning strictly dating. You're either set up on a blind date, or a dating site or whatever. I've never even thought about "love" until after I've met someone. Most of the time they aren't what I have conjured up in my mind.
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Don't you become boyfriend and girlfriend on the first date? That's news to me. If not, when is the "I now pronounce you boyfriend and girlfriend, you may kiss the bride" moment?
I've been on several first and sometimes second dates then decide they're not for me. Some date several people at once which I can't do that myself. I'll date then make a decision pretty quick.
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Darn, I flunked.
Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
Or none of the ways. You could fall in love with somebody and never date them, rather go straight into a relationship.
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Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
Or none of the ways. You could fall in love with somebody and never date them, rather go straight into a relationship.
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Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
Or none of the ways. You could fall in love with somebody and never date them, rather go straight into a relationship.
How can you fall in love without dating? Unless you two are friends & you fall in love with your friend.
That works, sometimes quite nicely. When I was in school I met someone who was engaged & so we became friends instead of romantically involved. They realized they were *not* friends with their fiance, just...caught up in it all, flattered & feeling they were doing what they were 'supposed' to do. Eventually they broke up & suddenly we saw each other in a very different way. We've been married for twenty years now & still best friends.
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You obviously need to see each other regularly, but there is no need to be friends. I don't even think I can change from a friendship to a relationship unless the friendship started as a romantic interest.
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Don't you become boyfriend and girlfriend on the first date? That's news to me. If not, when is the "I now pronounce you boyfriend and girlfriend, you may kiss the bride" moment?
Not as far as I know, I mean people can certainly decide to be an exclusive couple on the first date...but it can't be assumed just because of one date you're boyfriend and girlfriend. Otherwise how do you think one night stands/hook ups happen?
And there is no real specific moment of anything, just both parties having the conversation where they both acknowledge they desire remaining in a romantic relationship, rather than breaking it off and going seperate ways to date other people.
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If I dated someone I think I would only want to date if they were planning on having a serious relationship, whether we got married or not.
Personally, I feel like casual dating would be pointless. I don't like games very much and would rather date someone who has similar experiences and views.
I've changed my mind. I'm not the kind of person who can lead someone on. In theory I'm like yeah, let's just have fun, but when actually faced with the situation I can't do it. It's worse when you start to feel serious and you don't know if they are too or if they're just seeking validation.
I thought I was tougher than this :/
There are two different meanings to this question. Asking whether you would date someone that they ultimately didn't want to marry is different from asking if they would date someone that they never intend to marry. I would always date someone with the intention of having a long term relationship (and for some people that may ultimately mean marriage, though I don't necessarily believe in it), however there is no guarantee that won't find out later that you are not compatible and decide that this person is not for you. So basically, the dating stage is there to determine if you want to marry them or not.
Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
Or none of the ways. You could fall in love with somebody and never date them, rather go straight into a relationship.
How can you fall in love without dating? Unless you two are friends & you fall in love with your friend.
Ever heard of love at first sight? It might seem a little dated nowadays, but it still happens.
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Don't you have to fall in love before you start dating someone?
No. You date first.
To be fair, it could happen either way.
Or none of the ways. You could fall in love with somebody and never date them, rather go straight into a relationship.
How can you fall in love without dating? Unless you two are friends & you fall in love with your friend.
Ever heard of love at first sight? It might seem a little dated nowadays, but it still happens.
Yes, I heard about love at first sight. How can you fall in love without really knowing them?
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